Life support for young people offender (eBook)

Life support for young offenders.

Young offenders are usually exposed to complex problems and are often unfamiliar with the normal world. But it is precisely this normal world and its rules that show them how they should behave. This is a big mistake, as criminals are usually excluded from this so-called normal world and laughed at in secret. This creates no feeling for this other world and no basic acceptance. Because of my own experiences, I understand young people very well and therefore write on an equal level.

I myself have gone through a major change and am now free of many things that once burdened and triggered me. By intensively dealing with the psyche and emotions as well as by studying gestures, facial expressions and body language, I have managed to grow from a person who was overlooked and unfounded with complexes to a mentally strong and balanced person. This means triggering is hardly possible anymore.

In this book I write about phases of life and explain the influence of psyche and emotions.

Example: - why do you have complexes and where do they come from?

- What do they cause in you?

- What drives you?

- Why do you keep making all these mistakes?

- How to cure all this? Etc.

I’ve always asked myself why I am the way I am. I thought that in reality I wasn’t like that at all and was more of a nice guy! Nobody saw it except my dear Grandma Elsa. So I always asked myself the same questions: Why do I still make mistakes? Why did I surround myself with the wrong people? Why did I have friends who often humiliated me?

Why do I feel inferior to “normal people”? Where was my mind?

Why didn’t I have strength within me? Why didn’t I care about anything?

Why, why, why… Unfortunately, it often happens that you are neglected at a young age and therefore lack certain social behavior.

You often don’t understand why this is the case.

The parents who are responsible for this are usually busy with themselves. You have neglected the child due to lack of time, ignorance or your own problems, and without intention. They often don’t know any different, and so it’s normal for them. Basically, they are often just as much a victim as their child, whom they are now turning into a victim without knowing it by leaving the child alone to fend for themselves and giving little guidance. Parents are often unable to raise their children lovingly because they don’t know how to do it themselves. They’ve never been shown it, and so that’s their normality. The victims are now turning into the perpetrators.

Early childhood is a time when a baby gradually develops his emotional mind, without words and numbers. It learns to interpret the facial expressions, gestures and body language of its parents more and more and stores everything in images and the associated emotions. It has an instant feel for every facial expression.

As he learns the language, he neglects this again and trusts people’s statements more and more, and so in the end all that is left is his gut feeling.

If there is a lack of communication and information, a deficiency arises. The child often compensates for this in his thoughts, which are always connected to the emotion. In this way, misunderstood experiences remain stuck in images in the emotional world of thoughts. These emotional images and their associated events are clarified over time by the developing mind. If the experience is too drastic for the mind to be unable to clarify it for itself, then a child will find other ways in their thoughts to compensate for a lack of information. Such a deficiency often means psychological pain.

In extreme situations, a substitute world often develops alongside the real world of thoughts in which survival mechanisms are present. In order to continue to survive, our minds allow little white lies. This causes reality to become slightly distorted until everything is bearable again. These white lies in our minds help us escape, endure or alleviate emotional pain. Over time, complex patterns can emerge that give us some quality of life again. Lying to ourselves is helpful and helps us deal with suffering well into old age.

Maybe you’ve experienced this too: Because you’re lonely, you go to a party that doesn’t actually interest you. Or you have wrinkles removed or breasts implanted because you suffer from a feeling of inferiority. Or you buy food you don’t need just to reward yourself. All these lies and complexes make our existence easier and make us forget the mental pain for a while.

They make our lives more bearable for a short time. But we must not be aware of any of this and suppress all reason. They are repressed feelings that have not been heard or processed for many years.

When the loss of reality due to lying to ourselves progresses and the emotional pain can no longer be compensated for, young people even accept crime. This often happens due to lack of attention and selfconfidence. We all want to be loved and not feel alone. Some people are willing to take a risk for this.

No one is born a criminal, but complexities and lack of self-esteem can lead people down the wrong path. I can’t blame anyone here because if there is someone to blame, he is just as much a victim. A mother who abuses her child does not do so because she wants to. Most of the time she cannot deal with her own suffering. She is unable to cope with the situation and is only compensating for her own suffering. However, that doesn’t mean their behavior is acceptable. A person with a normal upbringing may not be able to understand this and often judge too quickly. However, there is an unpleasant world for people who have been spiritually alone or mistreated and have therefore chosen the wrong path. These people often do not know which emotions control and guide them internally. They don’t know why or who triggers this in them.

Those who come from such an environment usually do not have the mental strength and knowledge to question themselves or reflect honestly.

This is exactly why I am writing this book.

These people have a developmental disability, but are by no means stupid.

They lack the knowledge and understanding of the psyche and emotions so that they can make correct decisions for their lives.

Normal interaction has been lost and so they usually look for people/groups who are going through the same things as them. They then show solidarity and this is where the vicious circle closes.

To anyone who accepts my help, I pass on my knowledge and experiences and provide information. Because they don’t act out of their reason, but out of their emotions and therefore don’t know what they’re doing. They don’t deserve to be sidelined because of their past. They need psychological and emotional education so that they can make up for everything they are missing. Only then

Can you reach the spiritual height that your age dictates?

They usually only react to stimuli and pain that lies deep within them. You are triggered and, out of ignorance, you cannot do anything about it. So they keep going in circles. Only in their circle of friends do they get the understanding that they lack at home. This group of friends usually has similar problems. This explains why they keep seeking refuge in these circles and do not avoid them.

Young people assimilate themselves in order to be recognized and accepted. There they have confirmation and a status that they lack at home.

They have no strengths within them, no self-confidence and no self-esteem. They fail to accept themselves and therefore cannot love themselves. You were never taught anything like this. On the contrary, they were usually shown no or false appreciation. All of this makes them vulnerable and easily hurt. They hardly know anything about the psyche and emotions. Anyone who allows emotions risks being vulnerable. That’s why it happens that you’d rather go for a tough guy, no matter what you think. They constantly want to prove themselves in order to gain a place and status in the world. They seek attention, not humiliation. They want to be loved and not disrespected.

I am able to write about all of these issues on an equal level and speak about them as a guest speaker to give them an expanded and new awareness. This new awareness changes their thought pattern and thus their life course. But it is clear that this does not happen overnight.

It is a seed that needs to be watered for a while until the stem is stable enough not to fall over at the slightest gust of wind. The rapidly growing awareness of this reduces the recidivism rates of young offenders.

Now back to the escape into the world of thoughts Toddlers.

Escape into a world of thought in which everything is possible is normal. Because it is only here in our imagination that we are creative and consider things. In this fantasy world we try out a lot of things. We learn and reason in it without much effort. Compensate for our problems and feelings there and find solutions to alleviate the pain within us. So it’s not surprising if we allow a lie within us to keep away greater damage or the misery of reality. In this toddler time

The emotional world and beliefs grow within us. One of those natural mechanisms within us is to scream when we need something.

But as we get older, we become more and more detached from our parents and become more independent.

So we find more and more solutions for our lives and hardly need our parents. It’s a good idea to have...