CHAPTER 1: TAKING YOUR FIRST STEPS

SWINGERS’ TERMINOLOGY

420 FRIENDLY: OK with marijuana usage.

AC/DC: A Bisexual man or woman.

ALPHA MALE / FEMALE: A dominant person in relation to BDSM, or the primary partner in a Polyamory hierarchy.

BACKDOOR ACTION: Anal play / sex.

BANGOVER: When you have a wicked hangover and your pussy hurts-usually the sign of a good night!

BAREBACK: Sex without a condom.

BBC: Acronym for Big Black Cock.

BBW: Acronym for Big Beautiful Woman; a full-figured female.

BDSM: Acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism & Masochism. BDSM is less focused on sex and more focused on control and power exchange dynamics incorporating Dominance and submission.

BHM: Acronym for Big Handsome Man; a full-figured male.

BI-CURIOUS: A male or female who is interested in same-sex activities.

BI-FRIENDLY: A male or female who doesn’t mind having intimate contact with the same sex, but no intercourse, even though they’re truly Heterosexual.

BUKKAKE: (pronounced Buh-KAH-kee) Multiple men covering a kneeling woman with their ejaculations.

BULL: The dominant male in a cuckold arrangement; usually very virile and wellendowed.

CAN ENTERTAIN: When a swinger is willing to host for playtime.

CAN TRAVEL: When a swinger is willing to travel to meet others for playtime.

CD: Cross dresser; a man who wears female clothing.

CLEAN: Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR SWINGING: Swinging in separate rooms with the doors closed, so you don’t see your significant other.

CLOSET SWINGER: A person who hides the fact that he / she is a swinger.

CNC: Acronym for Consensual Non-Consent; a mutual agreement whereas one party is able to “act” like the other party has relinquished and waived consent to what’ll happen to him / her.

COCK BLOCKING: Anyone doing something that ruins another person’s chances of having sexual success with someone.

COUGAR: An older, attractive woman who prefers younger men.

CUCKOLD: A man who likes to relinquish power to an Alpha male (“Bull”), who has sex with the cuckold’s partner (known as a “hotwife”), while the cuckold is usually ignored and humiliated.

CUT: A circumcised penis.

CURVY: Voluptuous; a few pounds over average, usually carried in the hips and bust. Also referred to by the slang term “thick”. DDF: Drug and disease free.

DOGGING: A concept started in England of going to public places like highways, rest stops, and parks to have sex with multiple random strangers in your car or the woods.

DOMINANT / DOMME: In BDSM it’s the one in charge of a scene or Dominant / submissive dynamic.

DOMINATRIX: A female Dominant who provides BDSM / fetish play in exchange for money; also known as Pro Dommes.

DP: Acronym for double penetration; usually vaginal / anal or oral / vaginal.

DRAMA: Unnecessary level of emotion hassle or turmoil.

DVP: Acronym for double vaginal penetration.

EXHIBITIONIST: Behavior in which an individual or couple experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from being exposed or watched while having sex.

FLUID BONDED: A process in which a history of fluid exchange has been established between two or more people through unprotected sex and a relationship of some kind has been established through mutual STD / STI testing.

FMF / FFM: A sexual threesome involving one male and two females.

FULL SWAP: Two swinging couple have sex with each other.

GANGBANG: Three or more males having penetrative sex with one female.

GOLDEN SHOWER: Urinating on someone who likes and consents to it.

GREEK: Anal sex.

GROUP ROOM: A playroom in a swingers’ club where orgy play or multiple couples’ play is encouraged.

HALL PASS: When a swinger gets permission from his / her partner to play on their own.

HEDONIST: An individual who lives for pleasure.

HOST: A swingers’ party organizer.

HOTWIFE: A married woman who has sex with other men with her husband’s consent.

HOUSE PARTY: A swingers’ party at a private residence.

HUNG: A term used to describe a man with an above-average sized penis.

HWP: Acronym for height / weight proportionate; in good shape. Also referred to as “hard bodies”.

IRL: Acronym for “in real life”; in contrast to online.

ISO: Acronym for “in search of”

KEY PARTY: A swingers’ couples party where all of the men put their car keys into a bowl or bag and at the end of the party, the women blindly select a set of

keys to determine who she hooks up with at the party or goes home with for the rest of the evening for sexual gratification.

KINKSTERS: Swingers who are also into the BDSM lifestyle.

LIFESTYLE: Generalized term for “the swinging lifestyle”.

LS: Acronym for “the lifestyle”.

MARITAL AIDS: Sex toys, like vibrators, dildos and plugs.

MEET & GREET: A swingers’ social gathering at a Vanilla establishment, intended to make connections and acquaintances before heading off to a swingers’ club or party.

MFM / MMF: A sexual threesome involving one female and two males.

MILF: Acronym for “Mother I’d Like To Fuck”; typically women in their 30’s40’s who still look sexy enough for men to lust over them.

MUNCH: A social gathering like a “meet and greet”, except in the BDSM community. The name was created as a combination of the words “meeting” and “lunch”.

NEWBIES: People who are new to the swinging lifestyle.

NSA: Acronym for “no strings attached”; meaning no obligation to sexual play.

OPEN-MINDED: Welcoming of all people; also known as Pansexual.

OPEN RELATIONSHIP: A relationship that allows the people in the relationship to see and be with other people sexually. This can also include having emotional attachments with other people outside of the primary relationship.

ORGY: Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room with complete absence of inhibitions in everyone taking part, but with respect still given.

PLAY PARTY: A gathering of people of both sexes for swinging.

POLYAMORY: Multiple people in a committed relationship.

ROPE PLAY: BDSM play involving artistic rope bondage.

ROLEPLAY: When swingers act out or perform the parts of a person or characters.

SbiF: Acronym for Single Bisexual Female; also known as a “unicorn”.

SHARED WIFE: A married woman who freely has sexual encounters with other men.

S/O: Acronym for significant other.

SOFT SWAP: Two couples swapping with each other but limiting activity to kissing, oral sex and / or heavy petting, but no penetrative sex.

SOFT SWINGERS: Swinging couples who only have sex with their own partner; no swapping for sex.

SPIT ROAST: A woman receiving a man sexually from behind while performing oral sex on another man.

SQUIRTING: The act of female ejaculation.

STR, STR8, STRAIGHT: Heterosexual.

STEALTHING: The callous act of removing a condom in the midst of sexual intercourse, unbeknown to the female.

SUB: A submissive person in the BDSM realm; one who’s controlled and follows the Dominant.

SWINGERS’ INSURANCE: Sexual aid used in order to get and maintain an erection taken by some males. A few of the most common are Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra.

T-GIRL: A transgendered female.

THIRSTY: Slang for a swinger who tries overzealously hard to get noticed, get approval, or gain sexual encounters with other swingers. ...