The Memory of Places (eBook)

The Author Kristine Alex (née Erb), Dipl. oec. troph., was born in 1963. She has a son and lives with her family in the Chiemgau region of Bavaria, Germany, where she also works in her own practice space. She also has a practice in Munich. In 1988, Kristine graduated in Ecotrophology from the Rheinische Friedrich-Wilhelm University in Bonn with a specialization in World Food Economics and Consulting and Communication. Before she discovered constellation work, she worked professionally on various international projects in Europe, Africa, and the Caribbean. This included leading international nutrition studies in Haiti, Mauritania, and Zaire and setting up an international epidemiological cancer study in Europe. She also held a responsible position at the International Red Cross for one year in the crisis area of Rwanda (refugee operation in Tanzania, Burundi, Uganda, Congo). She first encountered constellation work in 1993, and since then she hasn't looked back. In 1998 she founded »Systeme in Aktion« (Systems in Action), a systemic constellation and training institute, and opened her practice in Munich. At that time, constellation work in a professional context was still very new and unknown. In 2001, she published her book The Orders 137 of Success. An Introduction to Organizational Systemic Constellations (German Title: Die Ordnungen des Erfolgs. Einführung in die Organisations Constellation), which was one of the first on the subject and is still being used today as a foundation textbook. In addition, she works with a wide variety of areas, including supporting the clarification process for family issues, and working with children and adolescents. One area of expertise is working through the psychological background of bodily symptoms in everyday life and at work. Through many years of working with energetic fields, she has sharpened her view for a wide range of perception levels, including those already known from classical family constellations, and incorporates them into the solution processes. Her work is mindful and profoundly comprehensive, characterized by a clear and open-hearted approach. In recent years, she has been particularly fascinated by the work of accompanying people in their search for an energetic clarification of their home and a suitable business location. Privately and professionally, she has found and established her home and her workplace. Systeme in Aktion Institute & Practice for Systemic Constellations Kristine Alex Am Seefeld 5 83257 Gstadt alex@systeme-in-aktion.de www.systeme-in-aktion.de www.SeminarhausAlex.de

Table of Contents

Introduction .. . .. . 11
The Systemic Constellation Methodology.. . . . . 15
The Constellation Process.. . . . . .. 16
Clarifying the Issue.. . . .. 16
The Constellation Process. . 17
The Role of the Representative.. . . 18
Constellations and Their Effects.. . . .. 19
The Phenomenological Approach.. . .. 20
The Ideal Spatial Setting for a Constellation.. . . . . 21
A Wide Range of Diverse Layers. . . .. 23
Places, Spaces, Buildings.. . . . . . .. 27
Finding the Right Place.. . . . .. 30
Why Don't I feel at Home Anywhere? .. . 30
I'm Torn Between Two Homes.. . . 31
My Roots.. . .. . . 34
Where Is My Right Place Professionally?... . 38
I Want to Finally Reclaim My Place.. . . .. . 40


Privately and Professionally?.. .. . . 41
How Does My Ancestors' Wartime Escape Affect
Me and My Profession as a Real Estate Agent?.. . 42
Considerations for Buying, Selling, and Renting
Property and Land.. . .. . . . 45
Buying A Property.. . . .. . 46
Ownership Conditions and Their Influence
on a Property.. . .. . . 46
Why Can't I Find an Apartment?.. . . . .. . 47
Selling a House.. . . . .. . . 49
My Mother's Beloved House .. . 49
What's Next for Me After I Sell the House?.. . . . . . 50
Sell My Property – Yes or No?.. . .. . 50
The Final Step to Selling A Property.. . . 52
What Does My Heart Want? .. .. 53
House Sale Due to a Divorce .. . .. 54
Rental .. .. . . 55
My Inherited Apartment Building Is Difficult
to Rent Out .. . . .. . . 55
I Can't Find a Tenant for My Apartment.. .. . 56
Why Can't I Rent Out My Practice Space?.. .. . 57

Construction and Renovation.. . 59
Marital Dispute During the Construction Phase.. . 60
Genius Loci – The Spirit of a Place.. . .. . 61
This »Cursed« Land... . 62
How Do I Build?.. . . . . . . .. . . 63
My Newly Renovated Old House.. .. . . 64
The Construction Plan.. .. . . 66
The Architect's Design Resembles a Prison.. . . . . . 67
Why Do My Debts Feel Like such a Heavy Load?. 68
Living a Healthy, Happy, and Content Life at
Home and at Work .. . .. . . 69
At Home .. .. . 70
What Does Living in a Semi-Detached House
Remind Me of?.. . .. 70
I Want to Establish Order and Feel at Home.. . . . . 71
Why Do I Feel So Lifeless and Worn Out in
My House?.. . . .
. . 73
I Don't Feel at Home.. . . .
. . 74
What Does This Painting Mean to Me?.. .
. 75
What Does the Chaos in My Home Office Have
to Do with a Past Love Story?.. .
. 77
The Ongoing Disputes with the Landlords.. . . . . . . 79
Why Is My Neighbor Behaving so Strangely?.. . . . 80

At Work. 82
I Want to Attract More Clients to My Practice.. . . . 82
What's Wrong with My Restaurant?..
. 84
Why Doesn't the Restaurant Succeed Despite Its
Good Location?.
. . 85
What Is Getting in the Way of Success?.. . . . . . . . . . 87
What is the Source of all the Agitation in the
Seminar Room?.. .
. 89
What is Disrupting the Clarity in the
Course Room?.. . . .. . 90
Physical Symptoms Associated with Places
and Buildings... 92
All The Staff Is Experiencing The Same
Physical Symptoms.. . . . . .. 92
What Does the Site Have to Do with My Heart?.. 93
An Unusual Rate of Illness At The Kindergarten.. 95
The Inheritance........ 97
Buying an Apartment with the
Inheritance Money... 98
Is My Inherited Small Property Cursed?... 99
Inheritance – Why Are There So Many Difficulties
Selling This House?... . 102
Special Places.. . . . .. . 103
What Do Power Places Give Us104

The Special Place..
The Power of a Place.. . .
Sacrificial Places – The Call Of Ancient
Knowledge.
The Birthplace.. . .. . . 112
The Past Events of a Place.. .. 116
Nature.. . . . .. . . 117
What Does My Tree Want?.. .. 118
The Walnut Tree. . .. 119
Living Abroad.. . . . .. . 121
How Do I Do Well Abroad. 122
Africa .. . . 123
Mechanisms Of Transformation.. . 125
Epilogue
Acknowledgements..
The Author
Other Publications by the Author..