5 1/2 Mentors (eBook)
150 Seiten
Lioncrest Publishing (Verlag)
978-1-5445-1721-6 (ISBN)
Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, or helpless in changing your life's circumstances? Are you searching for more happiness and fulfillment but don't know where to look? Doug Stewart doesn't have your answers, but he knows how you can find them for yourself. In 5 Mentors, Doug asks you to join him on a journey of enthusiastic discovery to learn and grow from everyone and everything. With personal and entertaining anecdotes, Doug reveals the mentors in your life you never knew you had. You'll learn how to identify your blind spots, break through barriers, and discover innate greatness that's been with you the entire time. If you are willing to look for it, a more exciting life is waiting for you.
Introduction
“Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.”
–Benjamin Disraeli
This book will not change your life.
You might have read other books that promise exactly that. After reading them, you’re told your life will automagically change, and your wildest dreams will come true. You’ll become faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, and leap tall buildings in a single bound. Many books promise extraordinary results. Few, if any, deliver.
I assure you that you’ll find no magic words or empty promises in these pages. If you’re expecting instant gratification and transformation by reading this (or any other book, for that matter), you should put it down now. I guarantee you will be disappointed.
If you’re looking for an honest, straightforward, and practical understanding of how to learn, grow, and develop from everyone and everything you encounter, this is the book for you.
As far as changing your life goes, there’s only one thing capable of doing that, and it’s not any book, film, religious experience, or anything else.
It’s you.
Innate Greatness
Innate greatness runs deep within all of us, and you are no different. All you have to do is draw it out. If you’d like a jump start on that, here’s an exercise that may help.
Start by thinking of the most sentimental object you own. For me, it’s a picture that my daughter drew when she was about four years old. It was a picture of a lake with a boat on it. In the picture, not only is she driving the boat, she’s also pulling me on a wakeboard. This picture is one of those sentimental items that any proud father would hold near and dear to his heart. That’s why it has hung on my office wall for the last five years. Every time I look at it, I smile.
This picture is made from the finest construction paper and crayons money can buy. When combined with the twenty-dollar frame I put around it, the total monetary value is slightly under twenty-one dollars.
Nonetheless, if someone offered me fifty dollars for that picture, I wouldn’t sell it. One hundred dollars. Still wouldn’t sell it. $500? No sale. If I’m being completely honest, there is a price where I would sell the picture. I’m not Mother Teresa. If you’d like to make an offer for more than $5,000, let’s talk.
Chances are you own something of similar sentimental value. What is that priceless item for you? It might be your grandmother’s wedding ring, a childhood toy, or a favorite book. It could be something that reminds you of a special time in your life.
You and that item have much more in common than you realize. First, there’s nothing exactly like that item, and there is no other person exactly like you. Also, that item is worth the precise value you put on it, and the same is true for you. In the same way that the picture my daughter drew is worth much more to me than the twenty-one dollars it cost to make, your body, mind, spirit, and soul are infinitely valuable. Once you accept and activate that knowledge, your heart and mind will open to your true potential and purpose. The choice is yours to feel empowered by viewing yourself as the priceless, one-of-a-kind item you are, or the twenty-one-dollar collection of parts that’s not worth anything to anyone. An effective way to begin to know how valuable you really are is to understand the distinction between confidence and courage.
Courage is something you can choose. Confidence is something you have to earn; it is the result of courage.
You can know everything there is to know about hitting a baseball, but until you gain the courage to step up to the plate, be willing to fail, and improve over time, you will never earn the right to be confident about hitting a baseball. The same is true with everything else in life.
Sometimes, it’s not an issue of confidence or courage. Rather, we believe we need permission to pursue our purpose, our passion, and who we were truly meant to be. If you feel like you need permission, here’s a permission slip for you.
By the power vested in me from the divine creator of the universe, I, Doug Stewart, officially give _____________________ full permission to pursue your passions and to accept yourself as the innately great and priceless person you are.
From this day forward, you will double down on your strengths, forgive your weaknesses, and continue to see every victory as an opportunity for gratitude and every failure as an opportunity for wisdom.
Now that that’s out of the way, let’s move on to something else you don’t need—motivation.
Motivation Is Worthless
Some people think of motivation as a prerequisite to taking action; it’s not.
Think of motivation as the way you feel at 5:00 p.m. when you think about working out at 5:00 a.m.…tomorrow. When the alarm goes off the next morning, motivation is usually nowhere to be found. Hit the snooze as much as you want; the motivation won’t be there at 5:10, 5:20, or 5:30, either.
Motivation is a by-product of discipline. If you’re disciplined enough to get out of bed when the alarm goes off, motivation will show up about ten minutes into the workout. It acts the same way with healthy eating. It’s never there for that first bite of salad at dinnertime. Motivation appears later on, when you start feeling better from choosing healthier foods for several days in a row. Discipline comes first; motivation is what happens after you’re disciplined enough to take action.
Another key distinction about motivation is that it’s much more appealing when it includes something fun, which almost never offers any long-term benefit. How often does fun mean thirty minutes on the treadmill instead of watching a marathon of your favorite TV show? Ice cream always tastes better than kale, and procrastination is always more convenient than discipline.
You wouldn’t feed garbage to a champion racehorse…all the time. It’s okay to give a treat to a thoroughbred once in a while; just don’t overindulge it. The same goes for your own self-care. Treat yourself like the champion you are. Allow yourself the occasional indulgence; just remember to consistently do the things your future self will benefit from the most.
Self-Care
It’s easy to replace self-care with escapism. Self-care is doing the things that prepare and allow us to be the healthiest version of ourselves—physically, mentally, and spiritually. Escapism is the act of doing things that provide a break from the reality of our daily routine. Allow yourself the occasional escape the same way you allow yourself the occasional tasty indulgence.
The eighty/twenty rule is a good way to manage your self-care. This means you dedicate 80 percent of your self-care time to perennial tasks that you’ll thank yourself for doing in ten years. Perennial tasks are things like budgeting, planning meals for the week, going to therapy, and blocking time to call your loved ones. Likewise, you spend 20 percent of your time on activities that provide some form of escapism. This is the time you allocate to massages, pedicures, partying with friends, going out to dinner, retail therapy, binging on Netflix, and other fun things.
Alarm Clock Moment
Of course, I have no idea why you actually picked up this book. If it’s because you feel like you’re stuck in a personal or professional rut (or both) and are looking for a way to break out of it, I get it. I still get stuck. The same is true for everyone else as well (if they’re willing to be honest with themselves).
We’re all susceptible to falling into negative beliefs and patterns. Fear of loss or of failure, trauma, intellectual laziness, spiritual apathy, self-centeredness, bad advice, and ingrained philosophy learned from childhood are examples of how this happens. Many others exist, I’m sure. The key is figuring out how to get unstuck.
When I felt the most stuck in my life, someone came along who was willing to disrupt the negative pattern in which I was trapped. I’m grateful for this disruption in my life, because it helped me to realize that I was operating from the self-destructive way of seeing myself and the world.
I was believing and behaving like a victim, which was preventing me from gaining any sort of positive momentum. Until then, I wasn’t accepting any responsibility for the outcomes in my life. That person challenged and encouraged me to me to wake up and realize that my personal development was my personal responsibility, rather than continuing to believe I was a victim of my circumstances. I call that my “alarm clock moment,” which I’ll talk more about in the next chapter. What are you waiting for to move forward? Permission? Access? To win the lottery?
You don’t need any of those things to take control of and effect change in your life. Instead of waiting for something to happen that may never materialize, accept your innate greatness to take action, reach your full potential, and get the most out of your time on earth.
Don’t waste time. Life...
Erscheint lt. Verlag | 1.12.2020 |
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Sprache | englisch |
Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Esoterik / Spiritualität |
ISBN-10 | 1-5445-1721-1 / 1544517211 |
ISBN-13 | 978-1-5445-1721-6 / 9781544517216 |
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