Breaking Negative Relationship Patterns (eBook)

Bruce Stevens is Wicking Professor of Ageing and Practical Theology at Charles Sturt University. He was previously Associate Professor in Clinical Psychology at the University of Canberra, Australia, and Founder of Canberra Clinical and Forensic Psychology. He was Chair of the Canberra section of the Clinical College of the Australian Psychological Society, and gives APS-sponsored workshops on couple therapy throughout Australia. Eckhard Roediger is a neurologist, psychiatrist and psychotherapist based in Frankfurt, Germany. He is a former chief physician of the Salus Klinik Hospital, and is currently Director of the Frankfurt Schema Therapy Institute and President of the ISST. He is author of several German language books on schema therapy. Bruce Stevens and Eckhard Roediger are the co-authors (with Chiara Simeone-DiFrancesco) of Schema Therapy with Couples: A Practitioner's Guide to Healing Relationships (Wiley, 2015).

About the Authors viii

Introduction 1

1 Schema Therapy: Toward a Science of Relationships 8

2 Past Tense, Present Tense: Understanding Family Patterns 29

3 Attraction, Romance, and Schema Chemistry 40

4 Back to the Future 53

5 Modes: In the Present Tense 63

6 Mode Awareness 77

7 Managing the Modes 92

8 Past Tense: Managing the Parent Modes 99

9 The "Great Escape": Understanding the Coping Modes 112

10 Meeting the Needs of Your "Inner Child" 136

11 Mode Change 151

12 Putting "Healthy" Back in Your Adult 171

13 A Clear Path: Dealing with Conflicts, Communication, and Decision Making 191

14 Looking at Sex Through the Eyes of the Modes 211

15 Affairs 220

16 Emotional Learning 242

Epilogue 256

Index 258