Woman Desired, Woman Desiring

Daniele Flaumenbaum is a gynaecologist and acupuncurist, and a member of the Faculty of Medicine in Paris for over 40 years. In the 1980s Daniele studied Chinese medicine and Taoist sexual alchemy, as well as exploring transgenerational psychoanalysis which highlights ancestral heritage. She is a pioneer in her field in bringing these disciplines together and this has transformed her life as a woman and those of her patients. She has been the president of the 'Jardin d'Idees Association' since 2010.

INTRODUCTION



CHAPTER ONE

We love men like we love our mothers

The first object of love

Loving like a child

The woman and the mother in us

Why do we regress when we love?

Maternal love is not sexual



CHAPTER TWO

The dynamic of sexual anatomy

The circulation of sexual energy

The role of the uterus in sexual pleasure

The clitoris, the hymen and the vagina

The uterus, the fallopian tubes and the ovaries

Hormonal control

The lesser pelvis, the hips and the perineum

Breasts and breastfeeding

Changes and transformations in a woman's body

Setting sexual energy in motion



CHAPTER THREE

The barrier of fire: recurrent disorders

Acute ailments, recurrent ailments

Looking for the origin

Fire in the genitals: blocked sexuality

Chinese medicine

Disrupting the repetition

Making love

Teaching our genitals about pleasure

The life force that inhabits us



CHAPTER FOUR

How little girls construct their sexuality and how daughters come undone when their mothers die

Expecting a little girl

At birth, the child becomes the magnetic catalyst

The power of names and surnames

Breast-feeding

Building the baby girl's sexuality

The dyad stage

Wanting to know the true story

Finding self-recognition

The father's role and the difference between sexes

Telling a little girl that later her genitals will welcome a man's

Parental intimacy

“But where was I before?”

The bottomless pit: falling into depression

Quest for meaning and renewal



CHAPTER FIVE

The gynaecological family tree

Painful menstruation

“Phantom” disorders

Premenstrual syndrome

Gynaecological ailments and their origins

Symptoms generated by family line disorders

Sterility and infertility

Unwanted pregnancies

The importance of knowing one's genealogy

The effects of building a genosociogram

Care



CHAPTER SIX

Desire

Inherited social and cultural burdens

First change: women think (1945)

Second change: birth control (1965)

Third change: sexual liberation?

“Third change: sexual liberation?

Parental fulfilment

Continued ignorance about sexuality

Desire: the energy that makes the encounter possible

When desire is inhibited

The body is not invaginated

How to break the cycle of transgenerational repetition

The starting point of a man's sexual desire is the genitals, while a woman's is in her heart, between her two breasts

Woman and their desire: floating heads

So, what is desire?



CHAPTER SEVEN

What is making love?

Courtship displays

Creating a shared space: foreplay and the encounter between the genitals

Fondling the breasts

Fixation on the clitoris

Desired, but also desiring

Benefitting from what we do not have

The co-penetration of the genitals

Creating the phallus

Feeling the uterus and maintaining the fire

Being fully present to oneself and to the other at the same time

Finding words again

Pathways of sexual energy

Completeness and surpassing oneself

Projecting oneself into the other's body

Jouissance: sexual joy

What is an orgasm?

Coming down after making love



ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

INDEX