Difficult Behavior in Early Childhood (eBook)

Acknowledgments
About the Author
Introduction
Part I. The Role of Discipline
1. Discipline in Classrooms, Families, and Society
Communities That Affect Children’s Development
Family Expectations and Classroom Expectations
Discipline From the Inside Out
Practice Makes Better
Appropriate Discipline Develops Social Competence
Chapter Highlights
Part II. Time and Using Timeout
2. Before Timeout: Understanding Children’s Sense of Time
Children’s Sense of Time
Making Time Relevant to Children
Or Else!
When There Isn’t One “Best” Choice
Likability, Validation, Acceptance, and Connection
Unconditional Love and Conditional Acceptance
Chapter Highlights
3. Three Common Uses of Timeout and Why They Fail to Work
Theory 1. The "Suffering" Theory of Timeout
Theory 2. The "Think About It" Theory of Timeout
Theory 3. The “How Would You Like It If…” Theory of Timeout
Chapter Highlights
4.The Community Theory of Timeout That Works
The Three Rules of Community
The Gift of Timeout
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5. Applying Timeout Effectively
Begin With Basic Boundaries and Instructions
Return to Timeout
Timeout Again?
Timeout in Perspective
Moving From Timeout to a Plan: Doing Something Differently
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Part III. Setting and Following Through With Boundaries
6. Boundaries: The Foundation for Growth and Change
Block Negative Behaviors First
Clarify Boundaries and Consequences
Ambiguity Won’t Work
Chapter Highlights
7. Follow-Through and Consistency
Follow Through With Verbal and Nonverbal Messages
Be More Stubborn Than Your Students
Constantly and Consistently Reinforce Behavior
Beyond Boundaries, Consequences, Follow-Through, and Consistency
Chapter Highlights
Part IV. Punishment, Praise, and Rewards
8. How and Why Punishment Works—and Doesn't Work
Motivation to Misbehave
Immunity to Punishment
Intensification and Abusive Behavior
Admitting It’s Time for a Change
Discipline Is More Than Punishment Alone
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9. The Effective and Judicious Uses of Praise
Praise the Person, Not the Behavior
Self-Awareness of Achievement: The True Reward
Attention, Appreciation, and Material Rewards
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10. The Most Important Lesson of Choices
A Multiple-Choice World
Rewarding Children for Meeting Expectations
Consequences for Poor Choices Are Necessary
Reasonable and Unreasonable Behaviors
Reflecting on Your Own Choices
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11. Motivating Reward Systems: Key Issues and Effective Principles
Rewards as a Part of the Process, Not the Total Process
A Reward System Cannot Become a Punishment System
Principles of an Effective Reward System
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12. Rewards-Only Behavior Plans
"Rewards-Only" Means Just That
Basic Terms of the Plan
Make the Plan Practical
Success in One Area of Behavior Transfers to Other Areas
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13. Connecting Goals to Motivating Rewards
Defining Goals and Rewards
Choosing Quantifiable Goals
Defining and Quantifying Desirable Behaviors
Short-Term, Midterm, and Long-Term Goals
Goals That Involve Time Frames
Remember, No Punishments
Children Should Choose Their Rewards (Within Reason)
Age-Appropriate and Individually Tailored Rewards
Rewarding Consistency With Bonuses
Examples of Rewards-Only Incentive Plans
Always Follow Through
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Part V. Recognizing and Responding to Specific Behaviors and Emotions
14. When There Is More to It: Helping Children With Deeper Issues
Happy Children Act Out Too
Is This an Angry Child?
Is This a Sad Child?
Is This a Fearful or Anxious Child?
Is This a Child Who Is Holding Unprocessed Pain or Loss?
Is This a Child Who May Need a Referral to a Specialist?
Chapter Highlights
Conclusion: Now What?
Asking Questions
From Observations to Results
Be a Teaching Artist
References
Index