Sex and Dating – Questions You Wish You Had Answers To

Mindy Meier serves as InterVarsity Christian Fellowship staff in the Chicago area with a special focus on working with Greek students in fraternities and sororities. Her husband is a pastor and they have four children.

Introduction



Part 1. Sexuality


1. What is the purpose of sex?

2. Why is it wrong to have sex outside of marriage? What if we really love each other?

3. The person I am dating wants me to set the boundaries. Is that OK?

4. Sex: How far can I go before marriage?

5. Can my girlfriend/boyfriend and I back up on our sexual relationship if we've gone too far?

6. Is oral sex wrong?

7. How can we keep the boundaries we have set and not fall into sexual sin?

8. Will my pornography habit die when I get married and have a real partner?

9. Is masturbation wrong?

10. I'm addicted to male attention. How can I break free?

11. How can I see women as more than sexual objects?

12. Will my struggle with sexual temptation end when I am married and have a partner?

13. If I have been sexually abused, will that affect my ability to have a good sex life in marriage?

14. What do the opening chapters of Genesis teach us about sex and marriage?

15. A guy in my Bible study just shared with me that he is a homosexual. I don't know what to do or think. What help can you give me?

16. What if my boyfriend and I do not feel guilty when we have sex? For us it is a wonderful time of closely connecting.

17. What's so bad about "friends with benefits" and "hooking up"?



Part II. Dating


1. Is dating a legitimate way to find a marriage partner or should I kiss dating goodbye?

2. How can I find a love that will last a lifetime?

3. How can I know if the person I am dating is "the one"?

4. Is it okay to date a non-Christian if we are super compatible?

5. What's there to do on a date besides drink and have sex?

6. I have been hurt before. How can I ever trust again?

7. How can I get over being jealous of my partner's former lover?

8. I am obsessed with finding a girlfriend/boyfriend. What help can you give?

9. I have never dated anyone or had any relationship. Where do I start?

10. Is it possible to be friends after breaking up?

11. Is it okay for a Christian to look for a marriage partner on the Internet?

12. Shouldn't we live together before getting married? I don't want to make a mistake.

13. Are we friends or are we dating? How can I tell?

14. How should I understand "submission" and "headship" as talked about in Ephesians 5?