Virtual Negotiation (eBook)
256 Seiten
GABAL Verlag
978-3-96740-448-7 (ISBN)
Jutta Portner is the founder and CEO of C-TO-BE. THE COACHING COMPANY, specializing in negotiation leadership and consultation. As a business coach and management trainer, she works with international companies such as Daimler, Volkswagen, Siemens, Telefonica, Airbus, among others, conducting negotiation training for executives worldwide.
CHAPTER 1. Why Negotiating Online Is Different than in the Offline World
Many virtual negotiators report a great deal of exhaustion. Participating in several virtual meetings throughout the day means sitting at a desk for hours on end. In the evening, your back hurts, your neck and throat are tense, your eyes burn, and your head is empty. This phenomenon can be observed all over the world and even has a name: Zoom Fatigue. Of course, Zoom Fatigue also occurs in MS Teams, Google Meet, Webex, and Skype for Business. And the symptoms are always the same. Working remotely for long periods of time is tiring and stressful. However, there is a lot riding on the results that are achieved in business meetings. And of course, better results are achieved when virtual negotiators are not drained and depleted. Let’s take a closer look at what exactly the stressors are and how virtual negotiators can deal with them professionally without falling victim to Zoom Fatigue.
We are exhausted: Too many stimuli, all at the same time
Who hasn’t experienced total overload before? Too many windows are open, too many tasks popping up, too many things to do, and then your technology breaks down. One minute it was working and now suddenly nothing works. There’s no use in clicking or restarting. The technology has gone on strike. By the time we finally get the problem under control, sometimes without knowing exactly how we did it, the meeting has long since begun. We stutter through an apology and are stressed even before we start negotiating.
The more negotiators participating in a session, the more thumbnails we see on our screen. Since the order of display is based on the sequence of log-ins, our own team’s thumbnails are mixed with the other party’s negotiating team. At first glance, it’s not possible to make a clear distinction of the negotiating parties.
We don’t even know where to turn our attention first: We’ve got the camera on, while the other person has their camera off. At the same time, we often work with multiple electronic devices. We’re using a second monitor to simultaneously communicate with our colleagues via WhatsApp. Desperation can easily set in at that point. In order to maintain control and get off successfully despite a potentially bumpy start, we have to put a stop to excessive demands. But how?
It is important to first reassure yourself: A little stress won’t hurt and is even normal. It pushes negotiators, making them feel activated, strong, and focused. Being challenged is helpful in moving a negotiation forward. But when we reach the breaking point, then disorientation takes the helm, and overwhelm (notice the last four letters of that word) becomes too much. We conduct an internal assessment of how much strength, energy, and attention we have. We compare this to the current demands. When we then subjectively feel that we’re no longer up to the task and lack sufficient resources to cope, we become overwhelmed, and our body reacts. We become increasingly nervous, jittery, and simultaneously become aware of our behavior. This can contribute to a spiral of stress. The more stressed our body is, the worse we are at handling complex cognitive processes. Stress serves as an alarm function. The release of cortisol and adrenaline has always prepared us for fight or flight. However, running away or attacking doesn’t help us at our desks, and thoughts like “I can’t handle this” or “The negotiation is going to fail before it even begins” are not helpful. The more stressed negotiators are, the less focused they are, and the fewer creative problem-solving ideas they come up with. Therefore, it is an absolute necessity to get out of this stressed state as quickly as possible and act constructively rather than demeaning. So, what can online negotiators do?
VIRTUAL NEGOTIATION. BEST PRACTICE
Accept that it’s just the way it is and quickly snap out of the stress pattern you find yourself in. Whether it’s sudden heavy fatigue, a mental block, or frantic actions like clicking wildly, online negotiators must first remove themselves from the situation in which they feel trapped. Turn the camera off, take three deep breaths, glance out the window, take a sip of water – the key is to do something else briefly. And very briefly! Why? Because there’s no time for anything longer when your negotiation partners are already online. But even small actions already give the brain a sense of self-efficacy, which we’ll delve into in detail later.
We get distracted: Another incoming email here, another phone call there
People are naturally curious beings. It’s only natural that we frequently tend to drift off. The surroundings of our negotiation partners are highly interesting. We try to decipher the titles in our colleague’s well-stocked bookshelf. We wave to the cute daughter of a supplier and wonder about the boss’s chubby cat that is walking through the frame. The visual stimuli in online negotiations are diverse. After every moment of distraction, our brain needs time and energy to refocus on the actual topic at hand and return to the original level of concentration. In self-management, this is referred to as the so-called “Saw Blade Effect.” In addition, we have underlying thoughts: Negotiators often simultaneously think about the future and the past, about possibilities and impossibilities, about tomorrow and the day after tomorrow, and about yesterday and the day before yesterday.
VIRTUAL NEGOTIATION. BEST PRACTICE
To prevent a nervous breakdown, anchor yourself in the here and now. Here is a mindfulness training exercise that can be used quickly and anywhere: Say out loud, “I’M HERE NOW.” While speaking, consciously focus on where you are at this moment and what you want to do now. Activate your senses and carry out a body scan, as it works wonders: Feel into your body, straighten up, and take deep breaths. Consciously smell something nearby, like an apple on the table or the coffee in front of you. “I’M HERE NOW” is a mantra. The more you repeat it, the more likely it is to become a routine that can effectively pull you out of the thought carousel and back into focused concentration.
We are constantly online: There’s barely any time to catch our breath
What do you do when you’re planning a long road trip? You start with a full tank, check the coolant, measure the tire pressure, and top up the windshield wiper fluid. You should approach video conferences in a similar way. It’s important to be fully present and energized. Face-to-face meetings provide us with breaks as we move between meeting rooms, allowing us to catch our breath. Even brief moments of disengagement allow for small mental breaks that refresh us. However, online, in the worst case, one meeting follows the next. One begins right on the hour, while the next one starts at the top of the next hour, and this cycle continues for several hours. Sometimes, there’s barely even a moment to grab another coffee or take a short restroom break between calls. How can we, in such a setting, bring certain topics to a conclusion, engage with new partners and their concerns, and make smart contributions in a focused way?
VIRTUAL NEGOTIATION. BEST PRACTICE
Schedule a break BEFORE the online negotiation firmly in your calendar and perform the “I’m in good shape” check. Ask yourself: Have I had enough sleep? Do I need some fresh air? Am I in pain? Am I hungry and in need of a small snack? Or am I thirsty and should drink half a liter of water? Am I tense and do I need to move briefly? Do I need a power nap? In short, is everything okay with me?
We get lost in the complexity and disengage
There’s nothing to stop you from keeping several balls in the air. But keeping too many balls in the air is difficult for even the most experienced of jugglers. Trying to manage too many demanding topics during an online negotiation consumes a great deal of mental energy and often leads to us mentally disengaging much earlier than in faceto-face negotiations. Trying to manage too many mental tasks and operations simultaneously and in parallel is even more likely to fail online than in face-to-face negotiations. The myth that multitasking is a superpower still persists. But what should take priority among your many tasks?
VIRTUAL NEGOTIATION. BEST PRACTICE
Stop multitasking immediately: It’s time to sort, filter, and prioritize. Create a realistic agenda with buffer times. Don’t let others push an unrealistic agenda on you. This helps you not to get bogged down in complexity and lose sight of the big picture. This way, you can focus on what’s currently at hand. One radical exercise is to imagine the following: In ten minutes, there will be a complete power outage. What needs to happen now? What is the minimum level of agreement you want to achieve before the lights go out? There are certainly tasks that you can recognize as being of lower priority and you can even delegate. It’s best to take a piece of paper during your preparation and prioritize your topics into categories of HML (High/Medium/Low). What points can only and exclusively be negotiated by you? Which aspects do you not want to discuss in this online negotiation and will you postpone, and which might even be matters to which you can say no? Who can handle topics on your behalf? Take advantage of this opportunity. You are...
Erscheint lt. Verlag | 30.6.2024 |
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Sprache | englisch |
Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Beruf / Finanzen / Recht / Wirtschaft |
ISBN-10 | 3-96740-448-X / 396740448X |
ISBN-13 | 978-3-96740-448-7 / 9783967404487 |
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