Live in the REAL! (eBook)
238 Seiten
Bookbaby (Verlag)
979-8-3509-4918-6 (ISBN)
Ark Sardarov is a first-time published author. He is an inspirational speaker, thought leader, entrepreneur, writer, and pragmatic philosopher. After thirty years of entrepreneurship and corporate banking, Mr. Sardarov is living his life-long passion of helping people on a greater scale. Beginning in his childhood, helping others, being of service, and functioning as a crucial resource to his family, friends, clients, professional colleagues, and his community have been his consistent hallmarks in life. Now with his first book, he is committed to inspire as many people as possible in his impassioned pursuit of helping humanity. During his professional careers, he has helped hundreds of people and companies grow and achieve greater successes. At the core of these successes are his hallmarks of creating strong and long-lasting relationships by inspiring people to be fearless in activating their soul-penetrating passions. He has taken all his years of experiences of being an acute listener and an empathetic sounding board, together with his own inspiring and revelatory life experiences, to ignite others in their pursuit of becoming better versions of themselves. His driving force has been propelled by his earnest, diligent, and truthful observance of humanity and the human mind, creating his own brand of pragmatic philosophy. Mr. Sardarov lives in Southern California with his loving and supporting wife of twenty-nine years and his three amazing daughters.
"e;Live in the REAL!"e; is finally the once-in-a-lifetime inspirational self-help book that you've been waiting to read and actually incorporate in your life. This is not your typical "e;motivational"e; book that skims the surface, lacks real depth and substance, and ultimately leaves you unmotivated to effect any changes in your life. This is an internal and intrinsic inspirational endeavor that indelibly penetrates your mind, heart, and soul on multiple, meaningful, and revelatory levels that you've never experienced. "e;Live in the REAL!"e; utilizes true, authentic inspiration to permanently effect real and ever-lasting changes in your life and on your journey of becoming a better version of yourself. It does not use trite motivational techniques that only produce a temporary effect, leaving you reliant on a constant motivating stimulus outside of yourself. The permanent self-inspiration that you unearth within yourself and ingrain in your DNA will forever serve as the self-motivating fuel to guide on your path of perpetual self-improvement, self-awareness, and self-actualization. You will never have to rely on any external motivation again. You will be self-inspired and self-motivated on a permanent default basis. This inspiration is borne from the author's pragmatic philosophy of REALogy , in which truth undeniably penetrates your life at every level and merges with your being to unearth your REAL authentic self. Living with this truth within every aspect of your life forms a clear, laser-sharp, and straight-forward direction in your life, a life that has now been made simple and easy for you to traverse. Life is no longer "e;hard"e; for you. It is quite clear, specific, and determined, where you are living life with exuberant intention and unbreakable fortitude. You will experience immediate life-altering changes within every aspect of your life. You will have a new-found appreciation and understanding of the preciousness of your life and life itself, which will serve as the foundation of your permanent transformation. You will no longer be in denial about any aspect of your life because all your inner truths will have unearthed the lies and made them obsolete. You will treasure every second and moment of time because its fragility will be readily apparent to you on a daily basis. You will embrace change as the constant necessity that fuels your personal growth. You will harness and utilize the immeasurable and unlimited powers of your mind to think on multiple and many levels as your normal and new way of thinking. You will transcend your personal history by breaking and unburdening yourself from prior unnecessary and futile life patterns. You will embrace a total and complete health and fitness lifestyle that will provide longevity, anti-aging benefits, and a prolonged healthy life. You will eliminate and eradicate fear from your life. Fear of literally any kind will have no impact on your life any longer. You will cherish and appreciate every important relationship in your life and vastly improve upon them, starting with the relationship with yourself. You will destroy all the false identities and masks of your life when you unbury your authentic self. You will unbind and unsubscribe yourself from any co-dependent relationships with money, materialism, addictions and/or social media. You will be love-centric, treating people with love and an open heart, not with fear and isolationism. Your strong belief in yourself will reveal the miracles in your life that will guide you during your self-discovery, one in which the reasons for everything will be self-evident. You will gain a new appreciation and understanding of meaningful and effective communication and real human connection. Your ultimate personal growth and transcendence will now have a transformative impact on the rest of the world from the domino example of your authentic self. Ultimately, you will come to life, a re-birth if you will!
STAGE 1:
Living (and Sleeping)
in the Bed of Truth
Truth is easy. It is simple—it is real and completely involuntary in nature. You never have to think about speaking the truth. It just happens; it pours out of you, as it should. A lie, on the other hand, you have to create it and think of it before you speak. Now if you really think about it, well beyond the life you’ve come to know, how silly is it that the concept of lying even exists in human nature? How wrong is it that someone can actually lie to you, or vice versa? Doesn’t that very thought on a deeper level trouble you?
There is no reason for humans to lie. Unfortunately, humans created rationalized reasons to lie because they decided that the short-term perceived benefits of lying outweighed the realities of truth. Consequently, lying became a normal part of life for all humans to the point where it’s hardly questioned any more. The fact that I’m posing this question shocks you a bit because lying is a deep-rooted fact of civilized societies that goes unquestioned. Most of us don’t think of ourselves as liars because we’ve rationalized in our own minds that we’re not liars, even though we are deep down, at least to some extent.
When living in the truth every day, your life becomes the purest—genuine and simple. What do I mean by that? Truth, and living with it, has to encompass every aspect of your life. I’m not only talking about being honest, although that’s obviously important and part of it as well. I am talking about seeing the truth and the REAL in every situation. More importantly, having the ability to see it clearly without being influenced by your urge to ignore it or your sense of denial is the approach.
Truth is difficult to define, but you know it when you see it, right? The very second you see truth, you know it’s true. Even if you’re not quite sure, your inner voice of truth speaks to you. In that moment, you will either accept it, or you will defy it. It’s your choice to make in that moment. It happens so quickly, often times, that most people are not consciously aware that they’ve made a choice. If you deny the truth, it’s easy for your mind to rationalize that it wasn’t a choice. If that truth scares you, goes against your prior thought process, or reveals something about yourself you want to stay hidden, your default reaction will be to defy it and deny it. When you do that, you are now lying to yourself and living in a state of denial and defensiveness.
Imagine for a moment a modern-day world where the concept of “denial” doesn’t exist, where lying doesn’t even occur and where everyone literally speaks the truth every time. Pretend that the words “lie”, “deceit”, “denial” and all their respective synonyms are not in the dictionary, that they never were. And that they don’t exist in any other language in the world. Wouldn’t that notion alone make the world an amazing and beautiful place? Mankind would naturally and automatically care for each other more. Hatred would not exist. Most of the ills of the world would not exist. People would approach each other with love and acceptance instead of fear and hatred. Is it impossible for such a world to exist? Would you be surprised if I told you it already exists and we’re just blind to it?
If the world were to be run by children, we would have this world of truth that I’m describing. Such a world already exists for children. The minute we are born, we don’t know lying and deceit. We are born in truth, not as liars. We are born with not even an inkling of the concept of lying. It doesn’t exist in children. Children are the most honest humans we know. As they grow, they live their lives in the truth every day. Unfortunately however, there is a limit, one that was created by the world we live in. Once they’re introduced to lying (typically by adults’ poor modeling) or accidentally become aware of it, they start to lie, initially as a test. They don’t stop lying because they become aware of the fact that everyone lies around them and that it appears to be the norm. And sadly, they’re not taught not to lie. After all, children learn from and model after the adults in their lives. This norm is further perpetuated by parents and other adults who do not strongly enforce and teach their children that lying is wrong. Sadly, they give up on this most crucial teaching moment of a child’s life when a child is the most prone to learning.
Humanity, from the very beginning, has incorporated lying in its daily interaction with one another. Why is that the case? Why is that the norm, albeit an accepted norm? We all know that lying is wrong, so why is it so pervasive in our every dialogue, communication, and exchange? Lying in court is a crime, with a fancy name of perjury. Why isn’t lying in life a crime, or at least forbidden? We must ask ourselves these important questions. We must delve deep for the answers and be honest about the discussion.
The human species is the only one in the animal kingdom that uses rational thought to create an untruth. Because we have the ability to think on a critical level, humans have chosen to create the concept of lying. All other animals, outside of humans, live in their most genuine state, in which they are not in denial about who they are. They operate on both instinct and rational thought, but they do not deny who they really are to themselves; they’re not able. Animals are always living in the moment and they accept themselves for who they are, undeniably. They don’t live with false identities of themselves. They live in their most natural and purest state, free of lying, one moment to the next. Humans can do this too, but we have simply chosen not to. Why do we allow rational thought to deny who we really are? And why do some of us do so to such an extent that we are living lives behind masks, never in touch with our true selves and true identities as a result?
Frank Kafka said it perfectly when he was quoted, “I was ashamed of myself when I realized life is a costume party and I attended with my real face.” Many people unfortunately wear masks once they’ve buried their inner truths in permanent graves by their lies. The truth doesn’t care however. That’s the beauty of truth. It doesn’t care what you do with it. Every lie incurs a debt to the truth. Sooner or later that debt will be paid. And you don’t get to pick when you can speak the truth again, once you’re on the insidious path of lying. Not until you have completely come clean, made full amends, and asked for forgiveness. Even then, the truth doesn’t see you the same anymore.
Why is it that children and animals are able to live in the truth every moment of their lives without any denial or equivocation about who they are, but we do not? What’s worse is that we’ve chosen to live such a life. We did this to ourselves, this unfathomable, vicious cycle of denial. We may have forgotten or not ever realized when that choice was made, but it was certainly made at some point, which then altered the course of the rest of our lives. It’s sad when you think of it in those real terms. Truth is the shortest distance from point A to B; it’s always the most direct route. A lie has no end point; it is the beginning of a long and meandering road with no navigation or GPS available. One gets so lost in it that the starting point disappears in the rear view mirror.
The great news is that truth is within our grasp and our complete control. While we cannot change the way society functions and how people treat you, we can certainly choose to control how we live our lives going forward. That choice is to live in the truth, every moment and every day, with genuine effort and intent. People will let us down. In virtually every area where there is human life, we will be let down by our friends, our family, our colleagues, elected officials, our governments, etc. Despite all this, we still have complete control of how we choose to live our lives. No one can take that away from us.
You know how when we’ve had a few drinks of alcohol, our guard drops a bit, and sprinkles of truth start exuding from our pores, our mouth, and our behavior? These are the truths that are waiting to come out when you’re not strong enough to allow them in a sober state of rational thought. Our body language always speaks the truth. Our bodies haven’t perfected the correct synchronization with our minds when we’re telling a lie. The body always indicates otherwise when the spoken word is a lie. Crying is another example of truth from body language. When you cry involuntarily, especially if you didn’t see it coming, you are living in the truth at that very moment. Isn’t that how babies communicate their truth of their moment to us? You have to listen to these truths and you have to be brave enough to take the necessary control of your life to start making changes from the truths revealed to you.
There is another important perspective of truth that serves as a constant reminder that it is ever-present in our lives. Art is truth. Art is borne of and resides in truth, since the beginning of time. Every single representation of art in human form, such as music, books, paintings, plays, movies, comedians, architecture, sculptures, comedy, tragedy, etc., has its origins in truth. Art does not lie. It exists to exemplify, amplify and expose the truth. Even when art has an ironic twist of a lie in it, that lie’s only purpose is to bravely expose the truth of the matter. Every artist conveys a snapshot of truth in life as a permanent living representation of truth. In fact, since the beginning of time, artists have been persecuted, vilified and...
Erscheint lt. Verlag | 28.3.2024 |
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Sprache | englisch |
Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung |
ISBN-13 | 979-8-3509-4918-6 / 9798350949186 |
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