Currency Matrix - A Help Guide to Relationships (eBook)

LOOK, LISTEN, SMELL,
AND LEARN

Before you engage in any type of relationship, you absolutely must apply three rules to the game of life, and especially when it involves your decisions. Life is a cluster of decisions. You will be making choices from now until the day you take your last breath and hopefully leave this world and existence.

The first rule of any kind of relationship, which exemplifies currency is to use your physical eyes. People ignore what they see right in front of them. If you are to be true to you, then you must face the obvious things you see right in front of your face. The very first thing an infant has is eyes. Observe what you see, and don’t sugar-coat or go into your mental estate, and add anything to it. What does the person look like? One thing to consider in life is that people are not books. It is one-hundred percent natural to judge by looks. How does this person or situation appear? What is the physical presence of what you are involved with? If it is a person, then what does their eyes look like? Did you know that the gateway to the intent of the heart (mind) almost always manifest through the eyes; even in pictures? This is one secret that cannot be hidden. Take a flat object like a sheet of paper, and cover everything but the persons eyes; now what do you see? They may be exceptionally attractive, and it could mislead, and even cloud your thinking, and you will most likely overlook exactly what kind of person you are dealing with. Is there fear in their eyes? Do they pretend to be afraid by their body language, but they have mean looking eyes? This is ironic because last Friday, I showed one of my closest friends a picture of the girl that left me at the altar. She was very sexy, with a big smile, and the very first thing he said was “She looks mean.” It blew my mind because she had a very genuine smile on her face, but now that I look at that picture, and if I were to cover-up her stature and only look at the eyebrows as compared to her beautiful brown eyes, then yes, she does have a mean demeanor about her fricken eyes, wow, how about that!

When you look at the person, are they wearing a bunch of tattoos? I recently was on TikTok, and connected with a girl. It looked promising that her and I would be working together. She seemed to be the idea person that I needed in partnership, but it took me three days to come off of the mental hype and personification that I had built of her, and wake up, and smell the coffee and realize the truth. She was tattooed up. Automatically just from personal experience, and working with clients with mental disabilities, I knew I was dealing with a person who had issues with accepting who they are, and dealing with every-day drama. It’s the same challenges everyone in the world faces, but seeing her body with tattoos all over already classified her mental disposition. So, I tried to overlook it, but by the end of the day, I realized that I was dealing with a nutcase. She had been damaged. Just yesterday, at first, this guy seemed extremely stable and intelligent, and then I see him acting out of character; later on, I seen a clear high-resolution video of his upper torso, and it was covered in tats. Oh, now I see why this guy was acting like this, it was the obvious tell-tell signs; so, men are just as guilty as women; mental illness is not gender oriented.

When you look at a person, what do you see? Observe exactly what you see, and judge their physical behavior. What are their expressions, hand gestures, stance, footwork, and body language? What do you see? Stop right here, don’t go any further and listen to me. Pay attention to what you are looking at, and don’t overlook the obvious! Is this person wearing dirty clothes, do they have holes in their shirt, is their hair a mess, are they clean shaved, do they look nasty and unclean, are they well groomed, are they standing slouched, do they have a crap-load of piercings? Nasty clothing, unclean shaven, piercings, tattoos, and gyrating all over the place is a hell of a statement, and the signals are loud and clear, but are you really seeing what is presented in front of you? First impressions especially how a person’s eyes appear are always and usually the truth; never forget this even if your life depended on it. I know of a famous comedian who always made me laugh, but got into some serious crap. So, I eliminated everything I knew about them personally for being a great person, and I see their eyes and realized the truth. They sold the world a lie and then the truth finally came out about exactly what I’d seen by the eyes; wow, this is deep! You better write it down and seal it in blood, sweat, tears overlaid with platinum because what you see is exactly what it is. Last week, I was watching a video on TikTok which featured a guy who purchased a fake stuffed Tiger. It was not even that big. He had a dog that was sleeping and stood the Tiger next to the sleeping dog and waited. When the dog woke up, it screamed in terror and ran with its tail tucked. By nature, that dog had an automatic built-in detector which indicated how dangerous the situation was, and this dog was exactly right the first time, even never having had any former interactions with the Tiger. This dog had no idea what a Tiger was, but was right the very first time; Danger! This same guy tried this on two other dogs, and asked them to come to see him in the other room. He placed the Tiger in the doorway, and these two large dogs refused to enter the room, and even when the Tiger never moved because it was fake; amazing! When it comes to relationships for anything, pay attention to exactly what you see because you are going to make a decision, and it may be a decision that you will regret for the rest of your life.

This brings attention to the very next thing you should be doing; listening. What does she or he sound like? Yes, they look great but what is the tone of their voice? What comes out of their mouth? Are they the ghetto-trash-sailor mouthed? I was going to go out with a very attractive woman who owned a prominent business, but she kept on ranting on and on and on, and I excused myself to the rest room, and just walked out the door. I got to my car so fricken fast, and was thinking to myself “Damn, I am so glad her and I did not spend the night together in one of her million-dollar condos, geez!” Everything started out great, she was very attractive, and I learned from the bartender that she was a body builder, who did fashion shows and that she owned half a billion-dollar condos in a very expensive area to live in Los Angeles County. I had just seen those condos while driving by, and I knew they were upscale, but for that area, it was normal. She owned the entire block and more. The bartender and a few in that bar had been to her property to see if they could afford to purchase some of her property. The woman was flaunting her purse, hat, sunglasses at nighttime with these huge diamond rings and bracelets. She was extremely attractive and she knew it, but she was so cool at first, and then she started talking, and talking, and talking. She couldn’t and wouldn’t shut the hell up, and it was very annoying. It got so bad that the customers in the very upscale restaurant was annoyed, but because of her dynamic and extravagant appearance, nobody had the guts or power to say anything to her. At one point, the bar tender asked me politely, while whispering in my ear “Please bro, get her out of here. Go ahead and take her over to one of her properties here, or in Palos Verdes or even Malibu and make our troubles go away. She’s very powerful and there’s nothing I can do; our management has tried it before but failed. She even has pull at the mall over there. She already told you that she wants you to take her home, please bro, get her out of here.” He was a big guy, with muscles, but he was scared of her. She had turned and stepped from the bar a moment, and was singing to the regular customers seated while dining. She came back, and then the sailor mouth unleashed. I kept thinking in my head about that movie “Clash of the Titans release the Kraken!” I was so tempted to go home with her on a one-night-stand because she was above average in presentation, and she was very classy. I think she even showed me keys to her Bentley. It was obvious that she was a little tipsy, and for me, that was a huge turn off. She was all over me, but I held my composure and assed the situation. I listened to what she said, she was telling the truth about herself, and was very open and blatant, so she had confidence, obviously well-groomed, and smelled really good, but she did mention to me about her expensive perfume. She made mention of this because she was telling me how the people were judging her for running her mouth. She was right, so she wasn’t dumb, but she was aware of her behavior and knew exactly what she was doing; so, a bit of a rebel, and a person who always gets what she wants, and she knew it; this made her exceptionally dangerous and toxic.

She wasn’t bragging, but she was making obvious points, true arrogance which can often be blinding, and cause the downfall of any company or infrastructure including an entire country. I agreed to most of the things she said. I understood her arrogance because she did in fact earn her power and was not asking for validation, she was in fact self-validation, with currency; but no, that’s not what sent me. It was her potty mouth; I literally thought I was stationed at the Great Lakes, and on leave with sailors in Chicago, just like the good-old-days. So, at first, I wanted see one of her condos because I was looking for a place, and she was inviting me for a tour personally. She had employees and agents who sale,...