Warrior's Dilemma -  D.A. Bender

Warrior's Dilemma (eBook)

YOUR GUIDE for a SUCCESSFUL TRANSITION to a SATISFYING CIVILIAN LIFE

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2023 | 1. Auflage
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The Warrior's Dilemma is a written for warriors, those who will soon get out, those who have gotten out, and the loved ones who surround them. Transitioning from the military to civilian culture involves way more than getting a new job and VA benefits. The change goes much deeper than change of occupation and situation. Through this book you will come to understand the complexity and depth of how warriors are fashioned, as well as why it is so difficult for many accomplished warriors to reenter to the civilian environment. In this book, former Marine and combat readjustment therapist D.A. Bender will guide warriors and those around them through the process of reentering the civilian world after faithfully serving in the military.
Active-duty: do you ever question what life will be like when you leave the military? Veteran have you wondered, "e;I started life as a civilian; why don't I fit in anymore?"e;Have you seen buddies get out and struggle with the transition? Maybe you've asked yourself, "e;What's creating so much difficulty?"e;Have you watched a loved one who was in the military flounder, struggling with coming back into the civilian world?The Warrior's Dilemma is a written for warriors, those who will soon get out, those who have gotten out, and the loved ones who surround them. Transitioning from the military to civilian culture involves way more than getting a new job and VA benefits. The change goes much deeper than change of occupation and situation. Through this book you will come to understand the complexity and depth of how warriors are fashioned, as well as why it is so difficult for many accomplished warriors to reenter to the civilian environment. In this book, former Marine and combat readjustment therapist D.A. Bender will guide warriors and those around them through the process of reentering the civilian world after faithfully serving in the military.

INTRODUCTION
Stuck Between Worlds
You don’t have to look far to find whole shelves of books on the military experience, or on getting out of the military and returning to civilian life. Some of these books try to answer the question, “Why is it so hard for many warriors to make the transition from a military culture to civilian life?”
Many such books, however, miss a key issue—and missing it creates tremendous problems for warriors. In The Warrior's Dilemma I want to unpack that issue and show you how dealing with it more effectively can make all the difference. As one Marine stated:
I had no idea of the actual impact, the gravity of the impact, that getting out would have on me. After I got out, three or four couples that have been out two or three years tried to tell me, “It may take a year, year and a half, before you’re right.” And they knew, all right. Well, why didn’t y’all tell me beforehand, guys?
But what that did tell me is that at least 90 percent, 95 percent, of warriors who get out go through this and no one talks about it. But every single one of them said it happened to them.
This book will help you along this difficult path. I want you to be informed and to help you understand how to make your way through it. Too many of our brothers and sisters simply can’t navigate this difficult terrain on their own. We are going to talk about it and give you an edge in going through this.
So, What’s the Key Issue?
The key is not about getting a great new job; the issue goes far deeper than that.
Nor is the key issue a pathology of some kind, whether PTSD or something else.
In fact, the most common reason for this tough transition grows out of the very things that made us the best war fighters in the world. Without properly addressing these issues, warriors can find themselves confused, frustrated, angry, hopeless, depressed, and even suicidal.
The key is about finding and embracing your core, unchanging identity.
The key is about finding and embracing your core, unchanging identity, which depends on a pair of complementary issues. Warriors must address both issues to successfully transition from a military culture to a civilian culture.
First, they must understand that the nature of the difficulties they face are rooted in circumstances far more profound than simply finding a new career or getting diagnosed with some pathology/disorder. And second, they must apply their new understanding in real-world ways that will equip them to successfully make the transition.
I unpack both issues in this book.
Why Should You Listen to Me?
For more than a decade I have worked with warriors as they leave the military, or with other men and women who once served in the military but who continue to struggle with transitioning to civilian life. I write this book for them, so that their experiences of the struggle will help future warriors. I hope that reading about their struggles will help you to overcome your own challenges and to help you understand and navigate the complexity of the task before you. I do not write representing any organization, but am evaluating my personal experiences, the experiences of others who have gone before me, and many who have come after me.
My background, I work day in and day out as a readjustment therapist, I hold an MA in clinical psychology, and am a licensed Marriage and Family therapist. As a former reconnaissance Marine, I have noticed troubling patterns taking place in my area of responsibility. After leaving the Marines, I have logged more than 20,000 direct clinical hours working with combat veterans and their families in the areas of transition and trauma. I can therefore say with confidence that:
Most transition issues are not driven by pathology (some type of disfunction).
A sizable majority of the veterans I work with have experienced most of the issues addressed in The Warrior's Dilemma.
While I do not claim to be an infallible authority on this topic, I do provide the perspective of a warrior working clinically in this field to help thousands of veterans make the transition more successfully. Please note, you are not reading just my words; you are reading the words of thousands of warriors who have struggled deeply. Out of their own anonymity they are not quoted directly, unless it is specified.
I have worked with service members from each branch of our armed forces. I also have been privileged to work with several generations of veterans, from World War II to the conflict in Afghanistan. Although their training and conditioning methods differed in various ways, a few core principles lie behind the foundation of how all our military services work. We will discuss these principles to highlight the problems that countless transitioning military personnel encounter and to point the way to a more successful life as a civilian.
Many Tribes, One Culture
As you read what’s ahead, keep in mind that “warrior culture” can take many forms. Native American culture, for example, boasts many tribes, each of which has developed its own unique culture for training warriors. Still, each tribe remains part of the Native American warrior culture.
And so it is with the different “tribes” of the U.S. military. Within this larger warrior culture, different tribes—Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines— use various methods and techniques to cultivate and prepare their own warriors. Some tribes use more extreme methods and conditioning than others. As a former Marine, many of my stories and reflections come out of the Marine culture; but I have worked with all military tribes. Their stories, too, will echo throughout this book.
To highlight certain lessons, I also have used examples from my own personal transition. In addition, I have conducted in-depth interviews with many warriors from the four largest branches of the U.S. military to get their stories and insights, which they have graciously given me permission to use. Finally, I have presented the information in this book to members of every military branch and consistently hear that it resonates with their own experience.
I have but a single goal: to suggest how we might be more intentional about preparing our warriors to transition back into civilian life, while continuing to encourage them to hold onto the unique power of the warrior identity.
Throughout The Warrior's Dilemma I describe existing forms of conditioning in the military, but I do not recommend any changes to those conditioning methods. The U.S. military has refined the making of warriors to an art and a science, and I have no desire to compromise our nation’s mission effectiveness. Rather, I have but a single goal: to suggest how we might be more intentional about preparing our warriors to transition back into civilian life while continuing to encourage them to hold onto the unique power of the warrior identity.
More Stuck than Broken
Large numbers of my fellow warriors are wrongly getting slapped with the label “broken.” Too many of those who begin to embrace such a faulty label never fully make the transition to a fulfilling civilian life. They get stuck between worlds and so cannot move into the full, satisfying life they both deserve and want. I wrote The Warrior Dilemma to help all warriors avoid getting stuck between these two very different worlds.
Please understand, I have no desire to diminish the importance of working clinically with significant combat-related stress injuries or other mental health pathologies! These problems are very real and need to be addressed appropriately.
At the same time, a very large percentage of veterans who do not meet the criteria of some specific mental health pathology nevertheless are going through treatment as if they have one. Such treatment has not, will not, and cannot give them the help they need. Something much deeper is not being addressed.
I have not set out to write a long treatise, so please forgive me if some of my statements seem brusque or terse. I want to get straight to the point so that you can identify current issues that may be causing difficulties in your life or in the life of a friend, and then suggest how you can begin to make some necessary, even lifesaving changes.
Finally, please don’t write me off if I write something you disagree with or identify as “not my struggle.” If you are a warrior making the transition to the civilian culture, I guarantee that the things discussed will apply to you. Too many warriors use the excuse “civilians don’t get it” to avoid the key issues negatively affecting them. The two most intellectually lazy people are those who reject everything they hear and those who accept everything they hear. It takes effort to figure out what things apply to you.
While you may not agree with everything I...

Erscheint lt. Verlag 23.6.2023
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