INTRODUCTION
Popular wisdom tells us that “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.”
1 This humorous maxim does seem to be borne out by experience. Deep in every human heart is inscribed the desire to love and be loved in an intimate, lasting relationship. How many people spend their lives pursuing this desire! Yet many find it elusive, struggling with romantic relationships only to end up in disillusionment, conflict or emotional distance.
The desire for love touches on the very core of our identity as human beings. As Pope John Paul II once said,
Man cannot live without love. He remains a being that is incomprehensible for himself, his life is senseless, if love is not revealed to him, if he does not encounter love, if he does not experience it and make it his own, if he does not participate intimately in it.
2 Bookshelves are full of self-help manuals offering answers to our longings for love and our challenges in relating to others, especially those of the opposite sex. Many of these books provide valuable advice. But John Paul II invites us to something more foundational. If we want to discover the real meaning of man and woman, and the reasons why we relate to one another as we do, we must probe not only our psychological makeup or our typical behaviors but, more importantly, what God has revealed about our ultimate origins.
God continually calls us to go “back to the beginning”— to rediscover his wonderful plan for humanity. Only by understanding and living according to that original plan can we find the answer to our searching and have a restored hope for relationships of deep, authentic love. The secret of man and woman is found not on different planets but in the biblical account of the first couple, created by God and placed in the garden of Paradise at the dawn of human history. Men and women are from Eden!
A NEW VISION
In our time God has provided a marvelous vehicle for this rediscovery of his original plan: the writings of John Paul II known as “the theology of the body.” These writings are a fresh and profoundly original approach to the church’s teaching on love, sex and marriage. They give us a whole new vision for understanding who we are as men and women and how we can experience the happiness for which God destined us.
The pope’s message is truly a countercultural one. If we look at the world around us, the state of affairs with respect to men, women, sex and marriage could be described as anything but Paradise. The prevailing philosophy, “I can do what I want with my body,” has led to a cultural landscape littered with broken families, lost human dignity, lonely individuals and deep moral confusion. We face the specter of even greater disasters: human beings created in the lab specifically for the purpose of exploitation and destruction, a massive international sex tourism network, a multibillion-dollar porn industry, an escalating attack on God’s plan for the family.
It is no exaggeration to say that sex and marriage are in a meltdown—a crisis perhaps greater than at any other time in history. And in the midst of it all, Pope John Paul II had the boldness to say that the answer is found in Eden—that the joy of lasting, true love experienced in the first marriage before the Fall is possible here and now.
Is this pure idealism on the part of an elderly celibate male? His critics say it is. But those who have studied and put into practice the theology of the body say this teaching is realistic, it is empowering, and it gives them a whole new vision for their lives—whether they are young singles, older couples, families struggling to raise their kids or those suffering the pain of divorce or widowhood.
Long before he was pope, Karol Wojtyla was friends with and counseled hundreds of married couples. He dealt with virtually every human struggle in the confessional. He was thinking, writing and reflecting philosophically on the meaning of the human person, the body, love and sexuality at a time when it was very unusual for a prelate to do so. As a young priest and bishop his views were considered avantgarde and daring.
No pope ever wrote as deeply, or as much, on human love as has John Paul II. The outcome of his reflections, the theology of the body, is God’s wonderful providence for our time. This is in part because the old arguments for the church’s moral teaching simply were not adequate to meet the challenges of the third millennium. It is not that they were false; they simply were not convincing enough for people living in a dramatically changed social context. New problems needed a new vision, a new framework and a new vocabulary to make the church’s teaching compelling and attractive, to unveil the radiance of truth.
John Paul II presents us with this new vision—which, insofar as it is an unfolding of biblical truths, is not really new. The pope says, in effect, that there is something glorious in God’s plan for human love and sexuality, though not in the way the world understands it. And the all-important but often undervalued key to unlocking this plan is the human body.
THE TIME BOMB
The pope first presented the theology of the body as a series in his weekly addresses (general audiences) between 1979 and 1984, the first five years of his pontificate. These addresses have been collected and published as The Theology of the Body: Human Love in the Divine Plan (Pauline Books and Media, 1997). One might reasonably wonder why, after more than two decades, this timely and desperately needed teaching is still virtually unknown to most Catholics. There are at least two major reasons.
First, the John Paul’s addresses are not what one would call light reading. They can tend to be somewhat abstract. Moreover, most of us are used to Western or classical Greek reasoning, which could be described as linear: Point A leads to point B, which leads to point C and so on. The pope’s reasoning, on the other hand, is Slavic. It could be described as spiral and is actually much closer to biblical thought. He comes back to the same topic again and again, but always on a different level, going deeper. It takes time to become accustomed to this way of proceeding.
Second, for the last generation there has been an atmosphere of dissent in many Catholic institutions. Many universities, diocesan and parish religious education offices, and schools have been less than enthusiastic about the church’s authentic moral teaching, especially in the area of sexuality. This situation has improved considerably in recent years, in part because of the John Paul II Institutes now set up around the world, where the theology of the body is studied in depth and applied to contemporary moral issues.
3 The purpose of this study guide is to contribute to the spread of the John Paul’s teaching in a form that laypeople can readily understand and appropriate. It does so especially from a biblical perspective because, as we will see, the pope’s teaching is profoundly biblical.
This guide also has an evangelistic purpose, since the theology of the body is intrinsically evangelistic. A healing of minds in regard to the body and sexuality can be a powerful instrument in leading people to Christ. In fact, it is hardly possible to understand and accept the theology of the body without gaining a deeper reverence for God and his magnificent plan. Nor is it possible to live this teaching without turning to a deeper reliance on the power of Christ’s cross and the Holy Spirit. The theology of the body is good news!
Karol Wojtyla recognized long ago that in the war between good and evil in our day, it is these matters relating to the body, sex, marriage and the family that are
the battleground. We who are followers of Christ have an immense obligation to engage in this battle. This study guide will give you the tools to begin to apply the theology of the body to your life and to share it with others so that they, too, can experience the beauty of God’s plan. Papal biographer George Weigel has predicted that the theology of the body is a “kind of theological time bomb destined to go off, with dramatic consequences, sometime in the Third Millennium of the Church.”
4 We all have a share in setting off that explosion!
PREPARE FOR ADVENTURE!
This guide is designed for use in parishes, communities, small groups and similar settings, as well as for individual study. Apart from this booklet itself, all that is needed is a Bible and a journal or notebook to write in. Those who desire more in-depth study can also refer to the
Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) and to the text of
The Theology of the Body.
5 Each chapter in this guide presents a part of John Paul II’s teaching in a form that can be readily understood and applied to real life. At the end of each chapter is a “Study Tools” section, which provides references to Scripture and church teaching, the corresponding general audiences, a glossary of key concepts, questions for personal prayer and small group discussion, an idea for practical application, and a Bible verse to commit to memory. The terms defined in the glossary are highlighted in bold when they first occur in the text. Thoughtfully working through the questions and, ideally, discussing your answers with others are keys to a deeply personal and life-changing assimilation of the theology of the...