THE 7 Loveless TRAITS (eBook)

Empaths

Warm, reliable, present, attached, comforting, nurturing, virtuous, fabulous, gifted, talented, and blessed. You all embody traits that keep millions of people alive, well, and healthy. You are the branch and the olive. You saved my life. I was just hard-headed.

– Leon R. Walker, Jr.

Your grandmother and mother were probably empaths. I believe empaths of today were made, groomed, or even forced into their current role because of how the women before them were forced into an empath role by societal norms: men being called to war, chauvinistic men, or docile and subservient women. Then it became a trait that you all embodied. Soon after, it was your norm. Anything aside from that missing role of others, it felt very uncomfortable and unbelievable when others could not perform in that manner like you were able to.

Narcissists do not have that trait once they begin to suppress it early on in life, due to many circumstances, for it to never return. There are many paths, based on your childhood. Narcissism or the empath role are only two of many. People aren’t aware of it, though, until their actions come to fruition. This is where and why you become confused when narcissists can’t provide reciprocity and other healthy relationship mindsets and traits.

When you see women not being able to serve as an empath, chances are they were raised amongst mostly men, men that were dominant in the household, and the women didn’t want to emulate their docile or abused mother or chose to disown their mother for various reasons. Those women developed a fear gene or trait to not be like their mom, yet more masculine like their dad. Empaths have to start becoming better managers of their loving and caring emotions and time spent with a narcissist. Equalizing, and then removing your gift. Not everyone deserves your gift. You master everything else, but over-extend yourself to underwhelming people. Don’t ever doubt yourself while you’re dealing with, being married to, or dating a Leon. Once you do, you lose! Narcissists specialize in creating doubt, because they are always doubting themselves, and no one knows. Doubt is a very hard pill to swallow for high-functioning narcissists. They enjoy fairytales— most people call them lies, but not a narcissist—fairytales are real to them. This is why they avoid being confronted by a lie they were caught in. As I created and then accepted the person who I built after my childhood, I overdid it. My mind had become conditioned to do wrong, to use, hurt, and mislead. Regardless of how aligned you are and how much you want to give to a Leon, make sure to always take precautionary measures. Even if you haven’t been cautioned before, the time is now. Your gift of giving has to be reserved for someone that is in a receiving mindset. Someone of purity, someone that’s appreciative of your gifts of not only giving but healing. Narcissists don’t think they need any kind of healing. They see themselves as someone who can and is very capable of making you better, healing you, but only better in a toxic form to fit their needs, desires, greed, and lust. If you continue to waste your gift, it will not feel good to you anymore, because they have slowly removed your tonic trait!

Empaths can take care of many people,

but many people can’t take care of one Empath.

Why We Need to Discuss the 7 Loveless Traits

Experts say that up to five percent of the population has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). That astonishing number alone means that millions of people are and have suffered from people like myself. Just imagine, from that five percent, how many people feel like or don’t realize that they are incapable of love? From that, the number of people affected becomes insurmountable, and this is why we need to discuss how I and others lived and are currently living. I chose seven, based on how I acted and what I knew of myself.

These traits go unnoticed for many years, but when they are noticed, men and women remain suspended in disorientation, irregular mindsets, and declining health—some just barely holding on, being confused, lost, damaged, torn, and scorned—except Leons! It is extremely imperative and is now my duty to open up and be honest about these low-level traits—the ones that are so dangerous, unhealthy, hurtful, misleading, and are so ingrained in men and women, today. Therefore, knowledge is not only power, but enlightening and liberating. I’ll begin with what I loved the most: money, sex, and favors.

Narcissists Love Three Things

If I made more money than she did, I had already looked at her as if she was beneath me. That was a major weakness and insecurity—the root of all evil!

Money: When you make more than your narcissistic partner, they always say, “We make this much.” They have to have lots of money or access to it, and will run through it extremely fast. It’s always about impressing other people. Impressing you starts in the beginning, but will slowly go away as they become used to you. Six figures and up will always be their goal. Anything less, and they’ll act like they have more but you’ll provide the offset. You’ll keep them dressed nicely, in nice cars, and they’ll use your credit, credentials, net worth, and network. If they don’t have money now, they’ll consistently talk about what they used to have, in an effort to make you think that they still have the ability to reach that amount once again. This braggadocios mindset remains heavy in the minds of ex-cons, drug dealers, and athletes. It’s okay for them to claim your money, but you can’t claim their money!

*Gem: If you ever want to know how they really feel about finances when they make more than you, claim their money as “ours” and just sit back and watch how they act and react.

Sex: They master all things sexual. We are extremely risky and will consistently put your life and health in some kind of danger. Sex and promiscuity are where their energy is focused, and not love, or caring, and this is one major way of building their supply—through deep seduction. The way you respond to them sexually feeds their ego. This becomes their comfort zone, their playing ground—and anything else you need, from an emotional aspect, will not be of any concern to them. The sex success aspect of one of their Loveless traits plays out mostly in women, ages twenty to about forty-eight. Middle-aged and older women want passion over just hot sex!

*Gem: If you want to know if they’re selfish or selfless about sex, stop having “just sex” and ask them to make love to you.

Favors: Allowing you to do for and take care of them, draws you in. They want you to feel like they need you, but they don’t. You’re not only another supply, but you’re also a supplier. Most want a mother figure but will never admit that. Your emotions will be played upon. You’ll be made to believe that they aren’t needy, but they are. This will cause you to want to do more and more for them. They’ll deny your advances, just long enough to make you want to give more; and once you reach that level of giving more, you’ll feel obligated to do for them—even more. Your favors will fall into a dark hole, with no end in sight. Their denial pushing you away is nothing more than hope—hoping you remain around long enough to finally submit—and most do submit. You’ll become extremely happy to finally be able to serve them, but at a risk and sacrifice. They become your responsibility. But you’re not theirs. By you doing favors so much, it’ll make you feel like you owe them, and that’s exactly what they want. Some of you pay bills late just to make a narcissist happy and impress them. Your first risk!

Most times when they return favors, they’re small ones, and it’s usually after having great sex with you—a time when you don’t require much of a gift!

*Gem: To find out if they will reciprocate a favor, ask them for a favor and money, all in the same breath—after sex or at any time. Usually if you ask for a favor after sex, they’ll see themselves in you and then they’ll become irritated, aggravated, and triggered, and normally will start an argument. This is an indirect “NO!”

Although I made about $120K a year in the Navy from 2007 to 2015, there was never a woman that was beneath me. In all actuality, the ones that made less than I did—which they all did, or some made just as much—were much better than I was and in many categories.

Leon—I’m not going to hurt you!

In order to hurt someone, I made myself believe that they were going to hurt me, sooner or later. Having that mindset took away all of my guilty conscience.

For the first time in my life, I let my guard down. “Leon, I’m not going to hurt you” were some of the first words that my third therapist softly spoke to me as I walked into her office in January of 2015. I can’t remember ever hearing those words before (or maybe once before), and as I heard those words, I could remember feeling a small sigh of relief. But then, with the other woman that said that, I didn’t let my guard down for her, like I did with my therapist—because I felt a sense of her trying to trick or fool me; she wasn’t. I was the one infusing the tricks and foolery, either that day or prior to meeting up with her, so I thought others were going to do it to me. I wasn’t going to take a chance, though.

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