Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

Known internationally as an expert on change, M.J. Ryan works as an executive coach to senior executives and entrepreneurs around the world, helping them accelerate business success and personal fulfillment. She combines a practical approach gained as the CEO of a book publishing company with methodologies from neuroscience, positive psychology, and asset-focused learning to help clients and readers more easily meet their goals.  Her client list includes Royal Dutch Shell, Microsoft, Time, the U.S. military, and Aon Hewitt. She's a partner with the Levo League career network and the lead venture coach at SheEO, an organization offering a new funding and support model for female entrepreneurs. She's the founder of Conari Press, creator of the New York Times bestselling Random Acts of Kindness series, and author of many books, including Habit Changers: 81 Game-Changing Mantras to Mindfully Realize Your Goals.  Daphne Rose Kingma is a beloved psychotherapist and relationship guide. She is also the author of a dozen best-selling books about love and relationships that have sold more than a million copies and been translated into sixteen languages and has been a frequent guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show. You can learn more about her work at www.daphnekingma.com. Daphne lives in Santa Barbara, California.

Contents
Foreword by Daphne Rose Kingma


1: The Key to Living Our Love


2: The Gifts of Relationship Gratitude



You’ll Feel Closer and More Loving
You’re More Likely to Stay Together
It’s Positively Contagious
You’ll Both Be Healthier
Conflicts Are Resolved More Easily
Resentment Melts Away
The More You’re Thankful, the More You Receive
You’ll Touch Love’s Mystery and Majesty


3: Myths that Hold Us Back



I Need to Protect Myself
Relationships Are Hard
It’s Dangerous to Be Too Happy
It’s Better to Be Right Than Close
You Should Be Just Like Me
If I Feel It, It’s True
Feelings Come before Behaviors
It Has to Be a Certain Way


4: Love's Attitudes of Gratitude



You Can Choose What to Pay Attention To
It’s Right to Notice What’s Right
Receptivity Is Key
It’s Not about Being a Doormat
Assume the Best
You’re Not Perfect Either
The Other Person’s Quirks Are Delightful
Love Is Truly a Gift
You Are a Great Gift Too
Awareness without Judgment Creates Change
Love Is the Cauldron in Which Our Souls Are Tempered
It’s All about Learning
We’re Here to Bring More Love into the World


5: The Practice of Gratitude in Love



Just Begin
Be Explicit
Practice Truly Seeing
Make a Gratitude Laundry List
Do It on Your Own
Celebrate Your “Usness”
Give Thanks for What’s Not Difficult between You
Give What You Most Want to Get
Remember Your Manners
Share What Makes You Feel Appreciated
Receive What’s Being Given
Do the 5 to 1
Give Thanks for Being Loved with All Your Foibles
Recall Your Love Story
Don’t Forget the Bad Old Days
Notice Repair Attempts
Appreciate Love’s Obligations
Take a Daily Gratitude Vow
Express Your Appreciation to Others
Ask a Friend for Help
When Times Get Tough, Go to the Higher Level


6: The Joyful Journey


My Thanks

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