Epic Sex I (eBook)

1. THE BASICS

What does sex mean?

The term “sex” is generally understood to mean all forms of actions on oneself or others that have the goal of achieving sexual arousal and/or sexual satisfaction. Most people use the term “sex” just for intercourse.

In this book, for simplicity's sake, I call all sexual acts between two people that have the goal of creating arousal, increasing arousal, and ultimately leading to climax, sex. I distinguish between bad sex, boring sex, good sex, exceptionally good sex, and epic sex.

In fact, there are no appropriate words to describe the beauty, intensity and depth of the feelings we can experience during epic sex. Epic sex is something we will never forget in our lives and will always remember fondly. Epic sex creates strong emotional connections between two people, can change our lives, enrich us again and again and make us happy.

For many people, good and – above all – satisfying sex is a cornerstone of their quality of life and is accordingly important and indispensable. Epic sex is not just what we can see in millions of porn movies. It is, by far, not only the sexual act, the intercourse or the insertion of a penis into a vagina, but rather touch, physical, mental, and spiritual closeness. It is the visible sign of affection, desire, and connection, feeling desired, being attractive. Really good sex can also be the tangible sign of being wanted, loved, and accepted.

When we experience how we arouse our partner with what we know, have got and can do, make her moan, gasp, or scream, when we see, hear, and feel our partner getting more and more aroused and finally climaxing, we feel masculine, strong, and powerful. We can give our wife or girlfriend the most amazing sensations she can have.

But epic sex is also intimacy, a state of intimate connection and familiarity, the strongest bond between two people. Epic sex is the communication of the souls with and through our bodies.

When we experience an orgasm, this feeling cannot be compared to any other feeling. In these seconds we are godlike, because then we are creating new life. At least theoretically, because for our sexual control center in the brain, it is less important what happens after the orgasm and where our sperm ends up. What is important for reproduction is ejaculation, for which we are rewarded with many hormones which make us incredibly happy. But more about that later.

Why does sex exist?

The basic principle of reproduction in mammals, a class to which we also belong, is that the male part penetrates the vagina of the female part with his penis and ejects his sperm cells there. These sperm cells meander through the womb into the fallopian tubes where they can fertilize the female egg. This fertilized egg then migrates into the womb and nests there. A new life is created and grows. We do not know why there is amphigony. We could assume that there is an advantage for evolution in it, if the genes get mixed up in new ways consistently.

What do we get out of it?

Survival and reproduction are the biological purpose of all life. To make sure we do everything we can to reproduce, nature has equipped us with “happiness hormones” which are released every time we experience intense and satisfying sex. The most important happiness hormones are dopamine and endorphin, and after sex, oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone."

According to the strict Catholic faith, sex is only for procreation, therefore contraception and sex for fun is forbidden by this side.

What religion forbids is no longer important to most people nowadays. We have sex because it allows us to experience incredibly beautiful, intense, unique, and very deep feelings. Epic sex is so intense that it can change your whole life. The more intense and deep the feelings experienced during sex, the higher the satisfaction.

Epic sex promotes pairing and pair bonding. A couple that has exceptionally good sex becomes immune to the charms of other people. Thus, epic sex can also create an extraordinarily strong bond between two people and bind them closely together. Epic sex is indispensable for many people and is part of a fulfilled and happy life.

So why do we do it?

There are endless reasons to have sex such as emotional intimacy, physical pleasure, and love but also boredom or the desire for an adventure and, of course, the desire to have children.

The motives to want sex can be divided into approach motives and avoidance motives. Some focus on something positive, e.g., experiencing pleasure, intimacy, and satisfaction.

Avoidance motives, on the other hand, are characterized by the desire to stop or prevent something, e.g., preventing the partner from seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere or even leaving the relationship, but also out of fear of no longer being loved.

The benefits of exceptionally good sex for women:

• Sex is a booster for the immune system, they are fitter and less sick
• Good sex relieves stress and leads to more sexual desire
• Sex is a migraine remedy; she has fewer “headaches”
• Good sex makes for a regular menstrual cycle
• Good sex makes her glow from the inside out
• Good sex provides an emotional connection
• Epic sex makes her extremely happy
• Good sex works as a work-out
• Good sex makes her sleep well

The benefits of exceptionally good sex for men:

• Men are relaxed, satisfied, and happy
• The risk of prostate cancer decreases
• Sex provides emotional connection
• Sex works as a work-out

Sex is fun, so it is ideal if you do not forget your sense of humor during sex. Things do not always go smoothly, and it is not uncommon for things to go wrong, especially if you do not know each other that well or are trying something new.

Humor relaxes almost every situation and connects you in bed. Therefore, do not take the subject too seriously. After all, it is all about fun.

How does a man function sexually?

At birth

When we come into this world, we are already complete. However, everything about us is smaller and does not function properly yet, but we have plenty of time to grow and develop. The testicles grow in our abdomen and make their way to the scrotum before birth. Shortly after birth, both testicles should have left our abdominal cavity. If this is not the case, we speak of undescended testicles, which must be treated medically.

During puberty

Puberty refers to the transition from a child to a sexually mature person. It is a unique time that each person experiences individually, just as life is unique for everyone. As a rule, puberty in boys begins at age of 9 and ends at age of 15. Body growth may not be completed until the age of 21. Every puberty experience is unique. There is no set "timetable."

Many different areas in the brain and several organs in the body regulate and control our sexuality through hormone releases. Before puberty, various hormones are produced that initiate puberty. Increased testosterone, one of the most important male sex hormones, is secreted. As a reaction, the testicles and penis begin to grow, pubic hair begins to sprout, breaking of the voice occurs, and facial hair usually begins with fuzz on the upper lip. Hair on the body starts to sprout, muscles grow, and the testicles start producing sperm.

During this process, involuntary ejaculations may occur, during which sperm is discharged. This can also happen during sleep. Many boys know the feeling when they find a sticky liquid in their underpants in the morning.

Many also discover their first form of sex during this phase: sex with themselves. It often begins with the discovery that we find it pleasurable to touch our genitals. At some point, they find the touches that increase the pleasure until climax. Of course, masturbation is neither dangerous nor unnatural or morally reprehensible. But more about that later.

During puberty, the interest in the opposite sex usually awakens. One feels magically attracted to girls or women and wants something more, though one may not yet know exactly what it is. Unless you had access to porn, then it becomes clear what the desire consists of.

It may happen that you are attracted to your own sex or you feel no sexual attraction at all. All this is normal. Every human being is different.

Many people have their first sexual experiences with their own sex during puberty and try things out to find out what they like and who they want to be with.

It can also be that even before puberty, you do not feel comfortable in your own body with your own gender. It can be that you feel like you were born in the wrong body. This can become especially clear during puberty when one's own sexual identity is being formed.

After puberty

After puberty, we are capable of reproduction and remain so until the end of our lives. For some men, the desire for sex eventually fades and fizzles out. The same is true for potency. As an older man, it can be that the desire for sex and also the potency will decrease. Thanks to Viagra and other drugs that increases blood flow to the penis, a man can still delay the age impotence for a certain time. Other men are still potent enough to father a child even when they are over 80. Sexuality in old age varies greatly from man to man.

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