The A-Z of Intermarriage

Rabbi Denise Handlarski is an intermarried rabbi ordained through the Secular Humanistic Jewish movement, serving the online community SecularSynagogue.com and the Toronto community Oraynu Congregation for Humanistic Judaism.

Acknowledgments 

Introduction 

A
Acceptance 
Action 
Adam and Eve 
Aggravation 
Antisemitism 
Assertiveness 
A$$holes 
Assimilation 
Attentiveness 
Attitude 

B 
B’shert 
Backgrounds 
Beauty 
Belief, Behavior, Belonging (bonus: B. Mitzvah)  
Bible 
Blending 
Borrowing 
Bridges 

C 
Calm 
Camp 
Children (and bonus “C”—circumcision)  
Communication/Chrismukkah
Community 
Compromise 
Conversion 
Cost 
Creativity 
Culture 

D 
Daily Life (tasks, what you want daily life to look like) 
Dancing 
Daring 
Death 
Definition 
Destiny 
Divorce 
DIY 
Dogma 
Dreams 

E 
Eagerness 
Eats 
Education 
Elation 
Elevation 
Emotion 
Emotional Load 
Energy/Excitement 
Equality/Equity 
The Everyday 

F 
Feelings/Fear 
Fellowship 
Festive Season 
Fidelity 
Forgiveness 
Frankness 
Freedom 
Friendship 
Fun 
Future Planning 

G 
Garbage 
Gefilte Fish 
Giving 
God 
Goodness 
Google 
Grandchildren 
Grief 
Grudges/Grievances 
Guilt 

H 
Happiness 
Healing 
Hearing 
Helping 
Holidays 
Honoring 
Hope 
Hostility 
Hosting 
Hurting 

I
Ignorant 
Important 
Inclusivity/Inclusion (featuring InterfaithFamily.com)  
Indivisibility 
Industriousness 
Insistence 
Intensity 
Invitations 
Irritation 
Isolation 

J 
Jazz 
Jealousy 
Jerks 
Jesus 
Jokes 
Journey 
Joy 
Judaism/Jewishness 
Juggling 
Justice 

K 
Kaleidoscope 
Kaput 
Karma 
Keva/kavannah 
Kids 
Kindness 
Kings 
Klunkiness 
Knowledge 
Kosher 

L 
Lean In 
Learning 
Legalities 
Listening 
Literature 
Losing It 
Loss and Letting Go 
Love 
Luggage 

M 
Marriage 
Meaning 
Mentsch 
Mindfulness 
Mistakes/Messes 
Mixed 
Moments 
Money 
Moses 
Mystery 

N 
Nag 
Nationhood 
Needs versus Wants 
Negativity/Naysaying 
Negotiation 
Never Say Never 
No Nos 
Nope  
“Normal”
Nuptials 

O 
Officiating 
Ok 
Openness 
Opportunity 
Oppression 
Optimism 
Ordained 
Originality 
Oscillation 
Oxygen 

P 
Pandering 
Parenting 
Parents 
Partnership 
Passion 
Paternalism 
Patrilineal Descent 
Poetry 
Possibility 
Principles 

Q 
Quagmires and Quandaries 
Quality 
Quantity 
Quarrelling 
Queer 
Questioning 
Quicksand 
Quid Pro Quo 
Quirks 
Quotable 

R 
Reaching Out 
Realism 
Reason(ableness) 
Reconnection 
Relatives 
Relativity 
Renewal 
Resilience 
Respect 
Rules 

S 
Sensitivity 
Serendipity/Syncronicity 
Sex/Sweetness/Softness 
Sharing 
Shavuot 
Shopping - Stuff 
Shopping - Synagogues 
Silliness 
Stifled 
Struggling 

T 
Talk Therapy 
Talmud 
Teaching 
Terminology 
The Attic 
Tikkun Olam 
Tradition 
Truth 
Turtle Island 
Tzedakah 

U 
Ugliness 
Undercutting 
Understanding 
Unity 
Universality 
Unlearning 
Unorthodox 
Unpopular 
Urgency 
Utopia 

V 
Vacations 
Values 
Vantage Point/Viewpoint 
Variability 
Veils 
Venting/Ventilation 
Vicious Circles 
Victories 
Visibility 
Vision 

W 
Wake up Calls 
Wandering 
Weddings 
White Dresses 
Whiteness 
Wisdom 
Wishlists 
Wokeness 
Wondering 
Worldliness 

X/Y 
X Marks the Spot 
Xenophobia 
X-factor 
Xmas 
X-rays 
Yearning 
Yelling 
Yiddish 
Yom Kippur 
You 

Z 
Zamboni 
Zany 
Zealous 
Zero Tolerance 
Zigzag (rhizome) 
Zipper (seam) 
Zodiac 
Zone 
Zoom 
Zygote 

Appendix: December Delights: Creating and Crushing Chrismukkah
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