Breakthrough

Dr Tony Humphreys is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist, author and national and international speaker. He is also designer and director of two courses on communication and self-realisation and relationship mentoring. Since 1990 he has been working in private practice in Ireland. Dr Helen Ruddle is a Psychologist with two main strands to her work-life. Presently her work primarily is with individuals in private practice along with University-level programme development and authorship of books.

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER ONE
Breakdown To Breakthrough
*Waymarkers On The Way To Breakthrough
*The Impact Of The First Couple Relationship
*We Are Always Creative
*The Conscious Relationship Is The Fulfilled Relationship
*Being Together With Yourself: The Crucial Breakthrough
*Everything That Comes From The Other Is About The Other
*The Way To Breakthrough Is Paved With Metaphor
*Where You Are Is Where You Need To Be
*Each Couple Has Its Own Particular Path

CHAPTER TWO
What Is This Thing Called Love?
*What Is Love?
*What Is Falling In Love About?
*The Power Of Attraction
*What Are Lust And Desire About?

CHAPTER THREE
Early Interruptions
*Early Relationships: The Start Of The Path To Intimacy
*The Impact Of Early Interruptions
*Early Strategies For Surviving Interruptions
*The Power Of Our Protective Strategies

CHAPTER FOUR
Did I Get To Meet Myself Before I Met You?
*Your Relationship With Yourself: The Crucial Issue
*Degrees Of Being Present: To Yourself, To The Other
*Current Interruptions In Your Relationship With Yourself
*Uncovering Current Interruptions In The Relationship With Yourself

CHAPTER FIVE
Did I Know What I Was Looking For?
*Seeking A Partner From Old Interruptions
*Uncovering The Hidden Agenda
*The Power Of Projections And Introjections

CHAPTER SIX
Where Are We Now As A Couple?
*The Past Is In The Present
*Making Connection With The Felt Experience Of The Child
*Querying Where You Are As A Couple
*In What Ways Is The Past Being Repeated In The Present?
*What Unmet Needs From The Past Remain Unmet In The Present?
*What Am I Seeking From The Other That I Need To Be Giving To Myself?
*What Am I Doing For The Other That I Need To Be Doing For Myself?
*How Do I Want The Other To Be That I Am Afraid Of Being Myself?
*To What Degree Have I Remained Enmeshed With My Parents?
*What Particular Protective Responses Are Manifesting In The Relationship?
*To What Degree Am I Taking Conscious Responsibility For My Own Life?

CHAPTER SEVEN
Breakthrough To Being Me
*Safe Holding Is Crucial To Breakthrough From Interruptions
Safe Holding for the Different Expressions of Self
*Safe Holding: Releasing The Power Of The Interruption
*The Ultimate Safe Holding Is Within Yourself
Separateness is a Crucial Dimension of Safe Holding
*Daring To Say The Unsayable
Saying the Unsayable: the Interruption of the Affair
Saying the Unsayable: the Interruption of Violence
*Seeking Outside Safe Holding

CHAPTER EIGHT
How Do We Get It Together Now?
*Getting It Together Now
*You Always Are Where You Need To Be
*Uncovering The Metaphor Underlying Present Interruptions
*Finding The Loving Response
*Waymarkers On The Road To Rapture

CHAPTER NINE
Where Do I Go From Here?
*Relationship With Yourself: The Only Way To Go
*A Relationship With Yourself: What Does That Mean?
*Safeguarding Your Wellbeing
*Your Felt Experience: The Key Information For Your Wellbeing
*Every Hair On Your Head Is Counted
*Returning To The Truths Of Who You Really Are
*Telling It Like It It

CHAPTER TEN
Have I Found What I'm Looking For?
*The Quest For The Sacred Marriage
*A Sense Of Spirit
*Love Is Always Present
*The Deeper Knowing That We Possess
*Our Awesome Creativity

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