Living An Orgasmic Life
Mango Media (Verlag)
978-1-63353-826-9 (ISBN)
Heal Your Relationship with Sex
“Through her own sexual healing journey and those of others, author and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet takes us back to a place where we can all develop the courage to reclaim our sexual desires. —Louann Brizendine, MD, New York Times Best Selling Author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain
# 1 Best Seller in Sexual Health and LGBT Studies
Overcome your discomfort: Living An Orgasmic Life is for those who find sex challenging and are uncomfortable with their sex life. Women who are alienated from their erotic side due to sexual abuse or trauma will find healing balm in these pages. Women who can’t surrender into pleasure, can’t sustain intimacy, or want to reclaim and feel empowered in their sexuality will greatly benefit from this book.
Awaken your sexuality. Challenges with sexuality are common and infrequently discussed. Xanet Pailet explores the reasons that cause women to disconnect from their sexuality including shame, body image issues, sexual abuse and trauma, physical wounding, and fears of intimacy. She provides practical advice and tools to help women awaken to their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido.
Add sex back into your marriage. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 20% of married couples are only having sex once a month—a sexless marriage. And, the number of reported sexless marriages has quadrupled in the last 20 years. Living An Orgasmic Life is filled with lessons and practical exercises to take your sex life from non-existent or mediocre to fulfilling. Learn:
Why it’s so hard to talk about sex in a world where everything is about sex
How sexual trauma can occur and how to heal it
How to reignite your libido
If you benefited from reading Sex Rx, Urban Tantra, Come as You Are, or Womancode, Living An Orgasmic Life is a must read.
Xanet Pailet is a recovered New York City health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full time sex and intimacy coach, writer, blogger, and teacher. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Xanet is particularly passionate about working with women, men and couples who are sexually disconnected. Through her work, and the many tools that she offers, she helps them reclaim their pleasure and transform their relationships and their lives. Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, and Tantra Educator. She is on the faculty of the Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute and teaches regularly at Good Vibrations in San Francisco. She offers 1:1 coaching via Skype or in person in the Bay Area. She also offers online group coaching programs and speaks regularly at national and local conferences and events. She lives in beautiful and serene Marin County, CA. Connect with Xanet at www.powerofpleasure.com. Dr. Emily Morse has been voted the #1 dating & sex expert to follow on Twitter by Esquire & Stylecaster. Her Podcast: Sex with Emily, is downloaded over a million times every month. Morse is now a sex talk pioneer of one of the most successful brands in the field of sexual health — leading the charge in modern day sex education, turning it on it’s heels in ways no one has ever before. Emily served as co-host of the famed Loveline radio show featuring Dr. Drew Pinsky, made appearances on national programs like The Today Show and The Doctors and even starred in a Bravo series about sex and relationships experts finding love called Miss Advised.
Introduction
PART ONE: Healing yourself from Shame, Sexual Abuse and Physical Trauma
Chapter 1: A Night of Goddess Worship Can Change Your Life
Chapter 2: Living a Life of Lies
Appearances Can Be Deceiving
The Widening Divide
What Happened to Us?
We were doomed from the start
Finding a Home in Your Body
Chapter 3: Women are Programmed to Say “No” to Sex
An Oversexed, Sex-Starved Culture
Sexless Marriage vs Upsetting the Apple Cart
Where Did my Libido Go?
“Keep your legs shut!”
Good Girl Madonna, Bad Girl Whore
The more we have sex, the more we want sex (Good sex begets more good sex)
Chapter 4: Shame: The Nastiest Five-Letter Word in the Universe
The Shame/Pleasure Paradox
Ancient Cultures Were Sex-Positive
Shame and Your Sexual Blueprint
Jessica’s Story: Body Shame
Jeff’s Story: Delayed Ejaculation Shame
Sexual Blueprint Exercise
Tim’s Story: Shame from Inappropriate Attraction
Anya’s Story: Sexually Repressed Shame
Bob’s Story: Shame Around Experiencing Desire
Masturbation and Shame
Delia’s Story: Masturbation Shame and Disassociation from Pleasure
Keith’s Story: Masturbation Shame and Early Ejaculation
Body Shame: A Generalized, Cultural Disorder
Exercise: Body Talk
Too Big, Too Small: Sex Organ Shame
Jim’s Story: Cock Size Shame
Pussy Shame
Annie’s Story: My Vagina is Normal!
Sexual Fetishism
Ralph’s Story: Cross Dressing and Submissive Shame
Chapter 5: Sexual Abuse and Trauma
Overt and Covert Abuse
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Impact on Sexuality
Anne’s Story: Unresolved Trauma causing Vaginismus
Repression of Memories
Trauma and Self-Protection Mechanisms
Darla’s Story: Trauma and Disassociation
Tonya’s Story: Trauma and Over-Stimulation
Ellen’s Story: Slaying the Tiger
Downstream Effects of Abuse
Lilly’s Story: Trauma and Fear of Intimacy
Cecilia’s Story: Trauma and Self-Abusive Behavior
Men and Sexual Trauma
David’s Story: Recreating Abusive Relationships
Working with Sexual Trauma
Jessie and Mark’s Story: Resolving Trauma and Reclaiming their Sex Life
Chapter 6: The Body Remembers: Trauma & Physical Imprinting
Trauma and Physical Imprinting
Body Memory
Physical Trauma’s Impact on Sexuality
Heal the Body, Heal the Mind
Releasing Trapped Pain from Trauma
Raina’s Story: Trauma from a Routine Gynecological Exam
Holistic Pelvic Care
Carrie’s Story: Healing Trauma from Childbirth
Jane’s Story: Weaning Herself Off a Vibrator by Rewiring Physical Patterns
Exercise: Awakening New Pleasure Pathways
Ingrid and Mark’s Story: Activating New Pleasure Pathways
Chapter 7: Blocks to Intimacy
Attachment Theory (“It really is all your mother’s fault”)
Secure Attachment
Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Anxious Avoidant Attachment
Other Influences on Attachment
The Influence of Attachment Style in Adult Relationships
Victor’s Story: Perpetually in the Friend Zone
Emotional Detachment (Why Crying is So Good for You)
Intimacy Requires an Emotional Connection
Lisa’s Story: Learning How to Let Others Care for Her
Tristan’s Story: Dealing with a Broken Heart
Caryn’s Story: Confusing Sex with Love
PART TWO: Awakening Your Pleasure
Chapter 8: Beginning the Journey of Sexual Healing & Awakening
Four Guiding Principles to Transform your Sex Life
Self-Awareness and Courage
Exercise: Visioning Letter
Understanding and Banishing Sexual Shame
Accepting and Loving Your Body
Exercise: Create Your Vagina Timeline
Bethany’s Story: My Period Betrayed Me
Julia’s Story: Where Did My Beautiful Body Go?
Laina’s Story: Menopause Madness
Embodiment—The Place to Begin
Chapter 9: Coming home to My Body and Welcoming Pleasure
Welcoming Pleasure
The Road to Becoming a Sex and Intimacy Coach
Sexological Bodywork
SkyDancing Tantra Teacher Training
Somatica: The Glue that Holds it All Together
Chapter 10: So What is Tantra Anyway?
Origins of Tantra
The Emergence of SkyDancing Tantra
Exercise: The Yoni Talk
Chakras and Sexual Awakening
Exercise: Subtle Energy
Principles of Tantra
Exercise: Chakra Sounding
Chapter 11: How to Reignite Your Shrinking Libido
Desire and Your Hormones
Desire and Your Internal Landscape
Exercise: Sacred Space Ritual: A Partner Practice
Vanilla Sex Can Kill Your Libido
Karen’s Story: Boring Sex
Desire and Your External Landscape
Exercise: Peak Sexual Experience Survey
Knowing What You Want
Who Initiates Sex?
Understand Your Sexual Style
When Sexual Styles Conflict
Anne and Jeremy’s Story: Conflicting Sexual Styles
Switching it Up: Sexual Styles Aren’t Static
Core Erotic Theme
Exercise: Identifying Your Hottest Sexual Movie
Chapter 12: Great Sex is about Polarity
Why Opposites Attract
Fantasy and Cultural Taboos
Collette and Liam’s Story: Creating Sexual Polarity through Role-Play
Sexual Polarity is Upside Down in our Society
Andrea’s Story: Finding Her Feminine Self
Exercise: Fun Ways to Find Your Sexy
Masculinity and Male Sexuality
Paul’s Story: Permission to Feel Desire
Genevieve and Carl’s Story: Learning to Surrender into Dominance
Chapter 13: Realizing Your Pleasure Potential
Slow Things Down
Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body
The Ins and Outs of Orgasm
The Power of Touch
The Three Minute Game
Exercise: Touching for Your Own Pleasure
You are Responsible for Your Arousal
Learning What You Want
Exercise: Self-Loving Practice
Orgasms Don’t Just Happen in Your Genitals
Anal Pleasure
Chapter 14: Living an Orgasmic Life
Sex is a Basic Human Need like Food and Shelter
A Sexual Woman is a Creative Woman
Sex Transmutation
Quantum Physics and Sex
Exercise: Feed Your Creativity
The Process of Transformation
Nora’s Story: Making a Career Change
Intuition: The Greatest Gift of All
Exercise: Cultivating Your Intuition by Learning Your “Yes” and “No”
Lara’s Story: Making a Life Changing Decision to be a Single Mom
Brant’s Story: When Sex and Creativity Flows, So Does the Money
Darleen’s Story: Reinventing Oneself in Her 60s
Your Story Next
Erscheinungsdatum | 23.08.2018 |
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Vorwort | Emily Morse |
Zusatzinfo | black and white illustrations throughout the book; Illustrations, unspecified |
Verlagsort | FL |
Sprache | englisch |
Maße | 140 x 216 mm |
Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Partnerschaft / Sexualität |
ISBN-10 | 1-63353-826-5 / 1633538265 |
ISBN-13 | 978-1-63353-826-9 / 9781633538269 |
Zustand | Neuware |
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