Rules of Parenting, The

Introduction

 

Rules for staying sane

1 Relax

2 No one is perfect

3 Be content

4 Know what you’re good at

5 Almost any rule can be broken occasionally

6 Don’t try to do everything

7 You don’t have to follow every piece of advice you get (including this one)

8 It’s normal to want to escape

9 You’re allowed to hide from your kids

10 Parents are people too

11 Don’t ignore your relationship with your partner

 

Attitude Rules

12 Love is not enough

13 Every recipe needs different ingredients

14 Anything extreme is almost certainly wrong

15 Look pleased to see them

16 Treat your child with respect

17 Enjoy their company

18 It’s not about you – it’s about them

19 Being tidy isn’t as important as you think

20 Good parenting is calculated risk taking

21 Keep your worries to yourself

22 See things from their point of view

23 Parenting is not a competitive sport

24 Never emotionally blackmail them

 

Everyday Rules

25 Let them get on with it

26 Let them go (wild)

27 Teach them to think for themselves

28 Use praise wisely

29 Make sure they know what’s important

30 Show them how to lose

31 Know the value of boundaries

32 Bribery doesn’t have to be bad

33 Moods are catching

34 You’re setting their eating patterns for life

35 Communicate

36 Set clear targets

37 Don’t be a nag

 

Discipline Rules

38 Present a united front

39 Carrots beat sticks

40 Be consistent

41 Lighten up

42 Focus on the problem, not the person

43 Don’t paint yourself into a corner

44 If you lose your temper, you’re the loser

45 Apologise if you get it wrong

46 Let them back in

47 The right of expression

 

Personality Rules

48 Find what incentives work for your child

49 Every child should have something they know they’re good at

50 Learn to appreciate the qualities that remind you of someone else

51 Look for the similarities between you

52 Find qualities to admire in them

53 Let them be better than you

54 Their attitude is as important as their achievements

55 Keep your fears and insecurities to yourself

56 Mind your programming

57 Don’t try to have a perfect child

 

Sibling Rules

58 Give them each other

59 Recognize that squabbling is healthy (within reason)

60 Teach them to sort out their own arguments

61 Work as a team

62 Let them entertain each other

63 Never compare children with each other

64 Different children need different rules

65 Don’t have a favourite

66 Mix and match

67 Find each child’s strengths

 

School Rules

68 Schooling isn’t the same as education

69 School comes as a package

70 Fight your child’s corner

71 Bullying is always serious

72 Teach them to stand up for themselves

73 Put up with friends of