How Not to F*** Them Up (eBook)

Oliver James - leading psychologist and bestselling author of Affluenza - presents real-life interviews, fascinating research and clear guidance to ensure we don't f*** up our under-threes

Are you confused by parenting advice from experts who contradict each other? Concerned about the possible effects of being a working mother? Terrified of turning into your own parents? Parents today are overwhelmed with elaborate advice on how to raise babies. In How Not to F*** Them Up leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that it's not our children that must be trained ... it's us. Meticulously researched, inspiring and yet provocative, How Not to F*** Them Up raises important questions about the way in which we bring up our children: Do we, as a society, provide enough support for parents? How has the role of the father changed in recent years? Can a working mum ever reconcile her career with her family life? Drawing on extensive interviews, James identifies three basic types of mum: the Hugger, the Organiser and the Fleximum. Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each, James offers simple strategies to reconcile parents' personal ambition and desire for a career with the needs of the family and maintaining a work/life balance. By challenging our ingrained and often flawed beliefs, James shows us how our own childhood experiences can impact on our perception of 'the family', and how ultimately we can provide the happy, and stable, environment that all babies and toddlers need, regardless of our own upbringing.

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As a mother, are you comfortable in your skin?Want to know how best to be a stay-at-home or working mum?Babies have very simple needs, yet many parents are overwhelmed with elaborate advice on how to meet them. In How Not to F*** Them Up, leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that your under-threes do not need training; it's getting your head straight as a parent that's important.Drawing on extensive interviews and the lastest clinical research, James identifies three basic types of mum: the Hugger, the Organiser and the Fleximum. Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each, How Not to F*** Them Up shows you how to recognise which style suits you best and outlines simple strategies to reconcile personal ambitions with the needs of your family.Empowering and provocative, Oliver James will help you make the best choices for bringing up a happy, confident child.