A Guide to Surviving Life as a Mistress

Written by mistresses, this book explores the nature of the extramarital affair from the standpoint of the affair itself, without making any moral judgements. It talks about those mistresses who seem prepared to live their life in the shadows because of their love for a married man. It also provides a look at the genuine problems such women face.

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Are you a mistress? What are the reasons for extramarital affairs? Should you stay in the relationship? How do you survive if you leave? What is your lover's viewpoint? What about his wife, family and friends? How do you evaluate your options? What is your legal and financial position? "A Guide to Surviving Life as a Mistress" answers these questions and more, in a clear and sympathetic way. It is required reading for any woman who is in this situation - whether by design or accident - helping her to understand and evaluate her relationship and how it affects her life today and in the future. Many books have been written about infidelity but when mistresses are mentioned they are, at best, pitied, and, at worst, condemned. Contrary to popular opinion, long-standing affairs are seldom about sex alone and the complexity of such relationships is understood better from the inside than the outside. This book is written by mistresses for mistresses and explores the nature of the extramarital affair from the standpoint of the affair itself, without making any moral judgements.
It does not view all mistresses as women who exchange their company and sexual favours for reward but concentrates on those who seem prepared to live their life in the shadows because of their love for a married man. To be such a mistress, and to survive the affair and the aftermath, she must be honest about her situation and that of her lover. This book takes a realistic, and often uncomfortable, look at the genuine problems such women face with genuine understanding and will give everyone who reads it a new perspective of these 'secret' women.