Rest in Peace (eBook)

Introduction 9
An all too common tale 9
It’s time for a paradigm shift 14
Why I care 17
Part one: The Emotional Landscape
Chapter one: Navigating Your Grief 23
Denial 25
Anger 28
Bargaining 33
Depression 36
Acceptance 41
Chapter two: Looking to the H orizon 49
Visioning your ‘new normal’ 50
Identifying your values 57
Making values-based decisions 61
Part TWO : The Legal Landscape
Chapter three: A d m inistering the E state 71
Finding the will 73
Who takes on the administration? 77
Applying for a Grant of Representation 87
Ongoing complexities for personal representatives 93
Chapter four: Defining the Estate 99
Determining what’s in the estate and what isn’t 102
Claims relating to defining the estate 109
Chapter five: Challenging the Estate 121
Making a claim for further provision 123
Contesting superannuation 132
Part THREE : The Way Forward
Chapter six: The Legal Pathway s 147
Kitchen table negotiation 150
Solicitor-guided negotiation 151
Mediation 154
A collaborative approach 160
The court process 163
Chapter seven: Your Team of Sherpas 171
Your legal Sherpa 172
Your supporting Sherpas 177
Chapter eight: The Art of Negotiation 187
Negotiation styles 188
Tips for how to like a pro 192
You have reached agreement – now what? 196
Conclusion 203
A good news story 203
Prevention is better than cure 210
Putting your life back together 214
Appendix A : Sample List of Values 220
Appendix B: Checklist for the Executor under a Will 222
Appendix C: List of Estate Assets and Liabilities 228
Useful Resources 127
Counselling and Grief Support 234
Law Societies in Australia 235
Collaborative Law 236
Mediation 236
Courts – Probate Registries 237
Superannuation Complaints Tribunal 237
Glossary 238
Acknowledgements 243
About Zinta 246