Asperger Meets Girl

Jonathan Griffiths designs software for a living and had no girlfriend until the age of 22, but is now married to a beautiful Australian. His father used to be a train-spotter, so his very existence just goes to show that there's hope for us all. He lives in Western Australia with his wife and children.

Foreword. Preface.1 What problem am I trying to solve here? 2. A Nerd's Eye View of Human Sexuality. 2.1 Idea 1: The Space of Possibilities. 2.1.1 Plotting Some Points in the Space. 2.1.2 Old-fashioned Romance. 2.1.3 Swinging. 2.1.4 Student Fantasy. 2.1.5 Coming Up Roses. 2.1.6 Slippery When Wet 2.2 Idea 2: The Conventional Games. 2.2.1 The Conventional Male Game. 2.2.2 The Conventional Female Game. 2.2.3 And?. 2.2.4 Revisiting the Extracts. 2.3 Idea 3: Relationship Space. 2.3.1 Graphs of Relationship Space. 2.3.2 How Much Do You Love Me? Quantitative Attributes of Relationships. 2.3.3 Subjectivity of Relationships. 2.3.4 Intermission. 2.3.5 Defining the Centre. 2.3.6 Why Can't People Just Say What They Mean? 2.3.7 The Extracts Revisited (Again). 3. Things to Try. 3.1 The Collusive Relationship. 3.1.1 Why So Slow? 3.1.2 What Does This `Collusion' Involve? 3.1.3 Where Does It Get You? 3.2 How Sex Joins On to Real Life. 3.2.1 Sensuality. 3.2.2 Attention. 3.2.3 Power. 3.3 Strategic Preparation. 3.3.1 Get a Body. 3.3.2 Get a Persona. 3.3.3 Get a Look. 3.3.4 Your Fellow Men. 3.3.5 Platonic Women. 3.3.6 Good Persistence and Bad Persistence. 3.4 Tactical Preparation. 3.4.1 Tactical Goals. 3.4.2 Times and Places. 3.4.3 Your Fellow Men (Again). 3.4.4 Look (Again). 3.5 Contact. 3.5.1 Staring and Personal Space. 3.5.2 The Art of Apology 3.5.3 Conversation. 3.5.4 Your Feelings, Considered from a Tactical Point of View. 3.5.5 The Last Mile. 3.6 No, Actual Contact. 3.6.1 Confidence. 3.6.2 Decisiveness. 3.6.3 Herself in Particular. 3.6.4 Colluding Again. 4. Afterword. 5. Appendix: Some Supplementary Thoughts. 5.1 Theoretical Context. 5.1.1 Philosophy. 5.1.2 Psychoanalysis. 5.2 Cartesian Diagrams of the Space of Possibilities. 5.2.1 Old-fashioned Romance. 5.2.2 Swinging. 5.2.3 Student Fantasy. 5.2.4 Coming up Roses. 5.3 Suggested Para-academic Research. 5.3.1 Para-academic? 5.3.2 Numbers for the graphs. References.