The Sandmann's Journal (eBook)

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Holding
Men Accountable
Published on December 11, 2017

What was the first thing that occurred to me when I read Terry Crews’ article in Time Magazine, “Men must hold other men accountable?” I saw the #MeToo movement and how the mainstream media condemns the methods of heterosexual men engaging in romantic and sexual contact with women. What about women who make well-intended gestures? Why would Time magazine publish an article asking only the men to be held accountable?

Should cats blame other cats for eating rats? Should dogs shame other dogs for chasing cats? Could women hold other women accountable for being dishonest or manipulative of a man? If you understand what I mean, you will see that I refer to both natural behavior and intention—a discernment of malicious intent. We are moving from holding people accountable for their volitions to discriminating against one gender because they exist.

Millions of people idolize Terry Crews, who is exceptionally talented. Why hadn’t Time magazine had the same presence of reason to issue a similar report asking police officers to hold murdofficers responsible for the death of innocent civilians? By the way, murdofficer is a word I’ve coined from murder and officer to reference police officers who gun unarmed civilians down in cold blood. I noticed the media hadn’t given them a name.

Does the mainstream media care about reporting the correct news or promoting their intended agenda? Terry Crews is one of my favorite actors. Still, I came up with my list of how men should hold other men accountable. I believe all police officers should hold murdofficers responsible for the murder they commit in the line of duty. I also think all men should make other men answerable for being wimps. Sexual harassment is wimpy.

THE EFFEMINATE MOVE
 

Does this man regularly sleep with a friendly woman he hasn’t asked to be his girlfriend, fiancé, or wife? He doesn’t want another man to marry her while she is still young and fertile. That’s an effeminate move! Is she caring for him as if she’s already his wife, yet he won’t even put a promise ring on her finger? He fusses with her all the time? Does he go behind her back, sleeping with any woman who gives him an audience, spilling his seed around?

Give him the benefit of the doubt for an unexpected one-night stand between consenting adults. That man is not a chronic womanizer. If he sleeps with a woman for months but has no plan to give her a title, he could be effeminate. All he wants is premaritally unprotected, no strings. I get that sleeping with a new oracle from every corner of the empire is exciting for straight men. Still, all men look bad when we don’t hold this man accountable.

ASKING STRANGERS FOR NUDE PHOTOS
 

In the 2020s, many women have turned to social media to validate their beauty. Those women post a sexually redolent image of themselves every hour or so. Within minutes, hundreds of men in committed monogamous relationships push their “like button” and shower praises of carnal affection on those sultry photos. There’s something questionable there. There is no shame if nude images from his romantic partner turn him on.

We can all agree that, as of today, there is still a difference between asking a woman with whom you are romantically involved and asking a woman you barely know to send nude photos of herself to your cellphone or computer. What about sending an unsolicited dick pic? Like the married former politician Anthony Weiner, who sent a private link containing sexually explicit photographs of himself to a female following him on Twitter.

Today, a reputable lady will not receive a photo of a stranger’s penis and decide to go out or sleep with him. She connects on social media, and you ask to see her naked within minutes. You’re wrong! Women will think all men are that way when a wimp does that. When another man says, “photo,” they automatically assume he’s asking them for the nude one. A few airheads had asked for nudes when they couldn’t care less if that was inappropriate.

ENCOURAGING WOMEN
WHO TREAT MEN WITH CONTEMPT
 

He saw a woman manipulate a man. Did she mess him up emotionally, steal from him, lie, break his heart, or make a fool of him? An honorable man will never patronize that woman. Besides, would she take his side if she saw him doing the same thing to another female? His sister or wife would side with the woman if they knew he was using her. His mother might report him to the police if she saw him emotionally abusing a woman.

Why? Women have a code. Don’t date toxic men. Don’t have sex with married men. Don’t save him even if his woman trapped him. Regardless of the evidence, always believe the woman’s allegation. Does he see cleavage and makeup and lose his self-respect even when she’s disrespectful? Men like that make it easy for people to assume we’re all stupid. When you see a woman disrespecting a good man, call her out immediately and stop it.

USING MATERIAL
POSSESSIONS AS SEX BAIT
 

Should men impress women with material belongings? Most strangers don’t care about your jewelry, cars, or money. An experienced “gold digger” could rob a man who displays his expensive properties to attract sexual attention. There are urban legends about female criminals who target wealthy men. Because of their wealth and fame, women who waste their youth providing sex to rich men often regret it. Men have lost their lives.

As men, we collectively hold each other accountable for superficial standards. Don’t use money, power, or influence to trap women for sex. Even if you succeed, they might hate you at some point in the future. I’ve heard stories of wealthy men who used financial stability to seduce a younger woman. Those women cease to be close to these men and feel a grudge against them. When that happens, it could make other men look just as bad.

CHEATING ON A
TRADITIONALLY GOOD WOMAN
 

You have a caring and romantic woman of your choosing. She’s beautiful, loyal, traditional, and does whatever you ask. She cooks delicious meals, keeps a spotless home, and takes excellent care of your family. This woman goes the extra mile without hesitation. She’s not disrespectful. She hates misandry, and she’s always got your back. For all men and humanity, resist every urge to cheat on this woman. You have a dependable queen.

Temptations will come. Once you have such a woman, other women might test you. They may run jasmine-scented baths, wear laced lingerie, and invite you to have a whiff of the perfume on their neck. There will be food, access to money, keys to a lovely home, and invitations to go on adventurous vacations abroad. Men should remember that we represent other men in everything that we do. The integrity of our gender is on the line.

He has a feminine woman in his bed who is not a slut, not a masculinity snob, or a man-hating radical feminist. Should he be cheating? Get it straight. When he mistreats this kind of woman, he kills the hope that good men exist in other women. Cut her loose if she’s too good for you. If you are not ready for all that tender love and care, you don’t want to settle down or have children. It is perfectly okay for you to walk away instead of being disloyal.

Only cheat if she manipulated you in the wrong understanding. She lies a lot. She’s shady and discourteous. Maybe she puts good men down and upholds radical feminist ideals. Yes, have sex with her sister and best friends when they seduce you. Preferably, when she is not treating you correctly, you should leave. Sometimes a woman might bait you into a tricky situation and switch her attitude afterward. Men should always protect good women.

MAKING NEGATIVE
REMARKS ABOUT OTHER MEN
 

Stop making negative remarks about other men to women. They will assume all men are like that. A person who believes he deserves the benefit of the doubt should do the same for another fellow. You don’t know all sides of the story. If you want her empathy, you shouldn’t seek it at the expense of other man’s reputation. Don’t bash the other man to look better—you will treat her like a queen, and she deserves better. You are the problem.

Sometimes, you will converse with a woman who tells you about her domestic bully, crazy stalker, or even rapist. You invite her on a date, and she forbids you to get her phone number or address. That was because she had had several stalkers in the past. Her ex-boyfriend beat her up, or he’s a narcissist. As serious as these allegations are, you should believe her story and immediately see her point—noble of you to respect her troubling experience.

Did the police resolve the case? You decide if it’s concerning that she’s had several of these kinds of incidence. However, if she has experienced such situations repeatedly, I don’t recommend dating her unless she has some help to recover from those traumas. Has she had therapy? Has she severed ties with the stalker or rapist? It is your responsibility to support her in finding help to resolve the trauma she’s feeling before inviting her on a date.

Men should respect themselves. Often, the perception is that women are the weaker sex with whom men should feel lucky where intimacy is concerned. That is one of the reasons an inexperienced man would try to protect those women who are abusive or disrespectful to another man. A man...