Break Up On Purpose

From the author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, the Angry Therapist, an honest guide to breaking up and breaking through

Every breakup is a transformation. A breaking down and breaking through to a new version of who you are now, after you have severed ties. Nothing will change you like a broken heart. Yet every breakup is different.

John Kim, the Angry Therapist, has seen thousands of patients through breakups of every brutal, freeing, heartbreaking kind—and he’s lived through failed relationships and a divorce of his own. Through his journey as a therapist and as a partner and father, John has identified seven types of unique breakups—and how to get over them:



The “Big One” Break-Up
The Blindsided Break-Up
The “Flat Soda” (Mutual) Break-Up
The You Cheated/You Left Me Break-Up
The “Soap Opera” Break-Up
The “Situationship” Breakup
The D-word (Divorce) Break-Up

Each type elicits different responses, requiring different approaches to healing and starting over. Utilizing his signature “self-help in a shot glass” approach, John offers a three-part guide to healing from heartbreak: We hear stories from John and his patients about the seven types of breakups, discover honest reflections about what really went down, and engage in Break Through Work to learn the steps necessary to truly heal and grow. John shows us how a breakup can be the ultimate tool for personal growth, where we discover bodies rewired, trauma processed, false beliefs dissolved, and new standards set.