Spiritual Rhythms for the Enneagram (eBook)
272 Seiten
IVP Formatio (Verlag)
978-0-8308-7121-6 (ISBN)
Adele Ahlberg Calhoun (MA, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary) has worked in Christian ministry for over forty years. She and her husband, Doug, currently work with Highrock Church in Arlington, Massachusetts, and work with retreats, the Enneagram, and leader resourcing nationally and internationally. Adele is the author of Spiritual Disciplines Handbook, Invitations from God and the coauthor of True You and Women Identity. Previously, Adele and her husband copastored Redeemer Community Church in Needham, Massachusetts, and she was formerly pastor of spiritual formation at Christ Church in Oak Brook, Illinois. A retreat speaker and trained spiritual director, she has taught courses at Wheaton College and Northern Seminary. In the early 1970s she helped pioneer student work with the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in Southeast Asia and the Middle East. She has also worked with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship in New England and Canada and with the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in the West Indies and South Africa.
Adele Ahlberg Calhoun and her husband Doug have served on the pastoral staff of four churches and are currently copastors of spiritual formation at Highrock Covenant Church in Arlington, Massachusetts. As certified Enneagram instructors, they enjoy resourcing spiritual leaders and pastors through spiritual direction and teaching the Enneagram. Adele is the author of Spiritual Disciplines Handbook, Invitations from God, and coauthor of True You. Doug Calhoun and his wife Adele have served on the pastoral staff of four churches and are currently copastors of spiritual formation at Highrock Covenant Church in Arlington, Massachusetts. As certified Enneagram instructors, they enjoy resourcing spiritual leaders and pastors through spiritual direction and teaching the Enneagram. Doug is adjunct faculty at the Transforming Center and at Potter's Inn Soul Care Institute, and he is board chair of Del Camino Connection. Clare Loughrige and her husband Scott are cofounders and lead pastors of Crossroads Church and Ministries in Marshall, Michigan, where they have served for over twenty-five years. They are both certified Enneagram instructors, using the tool to engage professionals, small groups, and a two-year formational community. Clare is the author of two guidebooks on the Enneagram. Scott Loughrige and his wife Clare are cofounders and lead pastors of Crossroads Church and Ministries in Marshall, Michigan, where they have served for over twenty-five years. They are both certified Enneagram instructors, using the tool to engage professionals, small groups, and a two-year formational community.
WHO I AM AND WHO I AM NOT
Eights bear the image of God as strong. Your life resonates with Isaiah 1:17:
Learn to do right; seek justice.
Defend the oppressed.
Take up the cause of the fatherless;
plead the case of the widow.
Strength is inevitably part of your story. Stories about who we are and who we are not shape what we do, who we become, and where we get stuck. Eights have a narrative about being tough, strong, and decisive. You skip over the chapters of your life about tenderness, weakness, or vulnerability. This section gives you awareness of some words that shape the narrative of an Eight.
▶▶▶ BELOVED EIGHTS
Spend some time with the words below that describe who Eights are and are not. Circle the characteristics that resonate with your journey. Star words that express your gifts. Underline words that describe parts of your personality that are unusable by God in their present form. Put a checkmark beside characteristics that you celebrate.
Eights Descriptive Words List
| I AM | I AM NOT |
| strong | passionate | weak | ambivalent |
| powerful | energetic | impotent | phlegmatic |
| magnanimous | impulsive | small | procrastinator |
| self-sufficient | hardworking | needy | easy going |
| independent | industrious | dependent | lazy |
| assertive | forceful | push-over | shy |
| confrontational | intimidating | avoidant | meek |
| challenging | aggressive | wimp | timid |
| revolutionary | fearless | slave | fearful |
| in charge | hard | subordinate | soft |
| in control | rough | helpless | smooth |
| my way | tough | accommodating | bleeding heart |
| boss | invincible | subservient | vulnerable |
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➤ Which words reflect the image of God in you?
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➤ Which words are you most attached to? Addicted to? Compulsive about?
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➤ Which do you resist and judge the most?
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➤ If you opened up to the words you resist without judgment, how might your life and relationships shift?
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➤ Journal about the words that reflect how God’s strength and power affect you.
▶▶▶ GETTING TO KNOW EIGHTS
This Eight shares how she began to know things in her body when she was three years old. She knew something others did not: “I am the one who knew bigger was better.” Notice how this awareness shapes her narrative.
My first memory attached to my gut intelligence is the Christmas I turned three years old. That year, the one big gift I received was a large doll. She was about three feet tall (she was as tall as I was!), had dark hair and dark eyes, and had a red dress. I named her “The Child” and she never had any other name! I distinctly remember feeling more powerful than and superior to my older sister, who had received a normal-sized baby doll as her gift. In my mind, it was simple: I had a child, she had a baby. Obviously, bigger was better. I don’t remember that we ever talked about it or fought about it; it was just something I knew was true in my gut—my doll was better than my sister’s.
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➤ What does “The Child” story bring up in you?
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➤ What is your memory of your first Eight experience?
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➤ What is it like for you to know something is true instinctively and in your gut?
TRUE SELF AND FALSE SELF: THE POWERFUL PERSON
Who we are or are not comes with expression and energy. The attitudes, behaviors, and motivations of beloved Eights convey powerful energy. Your true self emerges from union with God. It is not built by powering up and balancing the scales of justice. Your false self is the compulsive, deeply entrenched, old nature—the psychological or ego self that is constructed on a complex mixture of nature, nurture, and agency. This section will help you begin to recognize compulsive and impulsive false self reactions, as well as true self FLOW that loves God, others, and self.
True Self Eights: Sacred Strength
Eights are designed to reflect God’s strength and passion. A true self Eight has user-friendly power and intensity that serves the marginalized and needy. Eights are resourceful, decisive, and assertive. You drive hard, live large, initiate, champion, and take risks that can be noble and heroic. Passionate, earthy, and at home in the world, your presence says, “I am here!” Beloved Eights are comfortable wielding power and being in control. You prefer respect to approval. You don’t need to fill every leadership vacuum. When Eights live present to God, others, and self, you are warm, powerful, empathetic, independent, and vulnerable. As a leader, you are decisive and think about how much strength is needed in any given moment. Centered Eights embody God’s sacred strength.
Breath Prayer
In silence and solitude, ask God to help you see yourself clearly. Begin with breathing. Breathe in: “Made in God’s image,” and then breathe out: “I am not God.” Spend a few minutes with this breath prayer. Feel the goodness and freedom of being made in God’s image; feel the liberty of letting God be God. Breathe this prayer in and out throughout the day.
False Self Eights: Constrict in Control, Aggression, and Lust
Compulsive false self Eights over-identify with being strong and in control, which makes your energy user-unfriendly. Constricting around default and repetitive patterns of anger and control, you deny weakness and avoid vulnerability. This instinctive, reactive self finds it hard to soften and trust others. In your false self, Eights are unaware of how you can be aggressive, confrontational, oppressive, self-centered, self-righteous, domineering, insensitive, and prone to excess. Although lust is the vice of the Eight, we use this word to reflect the intensity or force that drives the Eight to power up and take control. These lusty, tough, bossy, “go big or go home” personalities often get things done through intimidation and autonomy rather than collaboration. You take on injustices with your own brand of justice. Eights who can’t be the boss or lead the charge may act out or pull away. If you can’t call the shots, direct the program, right the wrongs, and have the last word, you may take your marbles and leave.
▶▶▶ TRUE OR FALSE SELF
As you think about your true and false self, consider these questions. Notice what comes up for you; notice without judgment. What questions particularly invite you to jot down or journal responses?
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➤ How do true self Eight characteristics show up in your relationships with others?
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➤ Where do false self Eight qualities show up in your relationships with others? How does anger show up? (“I’ve had enough!”) How does guilt show up? (“I haven’t done enough!”) How do you pull away or act out when you don’t have control?
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➤ What makes you constrict your muscle (power and control)? What is a cue to relax your muscle?
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➤ How do you feel the difference between centered, true self energy and edgy, false self energy?
Gut
Reactions to Gain
Control
This reading highlights the disciples’ gut reaction to people they couldn’t control, and Jesus’ response to resistance. Notice who he “rebukes.”
As the time approached for him to be taken up to...
| Erscheint lt. Verlag | 12.3.2019 |
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| Vorwort | Jerome Wagner |
| Verlagsort | Westmont |
| Sprache | englisch |
| Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Esoterik / Spiritualität |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung | |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Psychologie | |
| Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Psychoanalyse / Tiefenpsychologie | |
| Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Sozialpsychologie | |
| Religion / Theologie ► Christentum ► Moraltheologie / Sozialethik | |
| Schlagworte | Christian enneagram • Enneagram • enneagram and relationships • Enneagram numbers • enneagram type • Harmony Triads • Path Between Us • Road Back to You • Spiritual Formation • spiritual practices • spiritual rhythms • Transformation • Transformative |
| ISBN-10 | 0-8308-7121-7 / 0830871217 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-0-8308-7121-6 / 9780830871216 |
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