Relax, It's Just Sex
Praeger Publishers Inc (Verlag)
978-1-4408-5473-6 (ISBN)
The thought that one could have sex with outsiders with the consent and support of your spouse or significant other, and still love and make love with your primary partner, is a radical notion for most men and women. And yet, an increasing number of married and unmarried couples are doing just this, and their relationships are flourishing as a result. Relax, It's Just Sex: Understanding Non-Possessive Intimate Relationships examines a relatively new form of intimate relationship that is increasingly popular among contemporary couples and singles. The book introduces the term "non-possessive intimate relationships" and shows from a psychological perspective how these arrangements work, emotionally and cognitively, for the individuals involved.
Licensed clinical psychologist and relationship therapist Leslie Spurr, PhD, explores the psychologically issues involved and then takes a close look at various examples of the non-possessive intimate relationship style within several, mostly covert, contexts, in which relationship partners agree to provide each other with the freedom to engage intimately with outsiders. Written in a nontechnical, accessible style, Relax, It's Just Sex uses humor and references to popular culture, including films, novels, and songs, to engage the reader in content that is primarily informative but also entertaining. This important and eye-opening book makes clear the significance and reasons for the growing popularity of the non-possessive intimate relationship phenomenon and explains why and how this "lovestyle" may constitute a sexual revolution.
Leslie Spurr, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist and relationship therapist who works with sexually adventurous couples and singles, assisting them to reconcile their atypical lifestyles with the demands and expectations of mainstream society.
Introduction
Chapter 1 Intimate Relationships
Exclusivity
Relationships
Alternatives to the Traditional Model
The Relationship Trajectory
A Little History
Agreements
Chapter 2 Non-Exclusive Arrangements
The Fourth Option
Existential Decisions
Advantages, Disadvantages, and Barriers
Defining Terms
Chapter 3 Non-Possessive Relationship Issues
Mate Guarding
Jealousy
Trust
Honesty
Love
Intimacy
Attachments
Freedom
Commitment
Choices
Possession
Loss
Altruism
Chapter 4 Yin versus Yang
Cognitive Shifts
Morality versus Ethics
Personal Qualities
Gender Differences: Benefits
Gender Differences: Challenges
Chapter 5 Practical Matters
Restrictions
Selectivity
Communication
Secrecy
Disclosure to Others
Desirability/Performance Issues
Unequal Participation
Risk Management
Commonality Characteristics
Prerequisites for Non-Possessiveness
The Attraction
Chapter 6 Swinging and "The Lifestyle"
Recreational Sex Clubs
Hooking-Up Patterns
Seduction
Consumer Satisfaction
Singles with Couples: Pros and Cons
Singles with Couples: Policies and Procedures
The Newbie Experience
Orientation
Resorts
Chapter 7 Digital Double Dating
Social/Sexual Networking
Web-Based Coupling
First Dates
Private Parties
House Parties
Socials
Dogging
Chapter 8 Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes
Three's a Crowd?
Ménage Management
Playing Mixed Doubles
Group Gropes
Orgy Options
Chapter 9 Polyamory
Loving More
Polyfidelity
Chapter 10 Friends with Benefits
Booty Calls
Booty-Calling Perks
Chapter 11 The Appeal of Non-Possessive Intimate Relationships
Expanding Awareness
Searching for the Best of Both Worlds
Keeping Love Alive
Seeking Sexual Sensuousness
Avoiding the Pitfalls of Possessiveness
Taming the Rage Reaction
Going Underground in a Vanilla World
Tweaking Family Values
Navigating Changes
Growing Older Gracefully
Coping with Dissolution
Pursuing Happiness
Loving Non-Possessively
Notes
Bibliography
Index
| Erscheinungsdatum | 04.07.2017 |
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| Sprache | englisch |
| Maße | 156 x 235 mm |
| Gewicht | 567 g |
| Themenwelt | Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Sexualität / Partnerschaft |
| ISBN-10 | 1-4408-5473-4 / 1440854734 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1-4408-5473-6 / 9781440854736 |
| Zustand | Neuware |
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