Imperfect Forgiveness

Alice Wheaton has dedicated her life to bringing out the best in others. After graduating with a BScN, she worked as an intensive care nurse for six years. Afterwards, Alice turned her pursuits to business. Like all of us, Alice has experienced hurt and disappointment in relationships. Instead of feeling the typical progress of hurt, anger, and resentment, she made a choice to forgive early and forgive often. She developed an effective method of approaching forgiveness by releasing anger and resentment to create peace within and she did this in stages. Alice is a bestselling author with books translated into ten languages. She is a professional speaker and trainer, providing programs that help others create new opportunities and achieve challenging goals. Her work has taken her to Scandinavia, the Pacific Rim, Latin America, and across the US and Canada.

Acknowledgements

Foreword

The Kim Foundation

Introduction

Chapter I
Forgiveness and Peace
Peace on earth begins inside when we let go of anger and resentment.

Chapter II
Reasons Not to Forgive
Whatever your reasons for not forgiving, you only hurt yourself.

Chapter III
Perception
There are as many truths in the situation as there are people involved.

Chapter IV
Compassion Brings Happiness
Apply one percent compassion and increase your emotional well-being.

Chapter V
Defensive Behavior
Using childhood defenses for hurt and loss can be detrimental.

Chapter VI
How I Appear to Others
We broadcast our attitudes and state of inner peace to others.

Chapter VII
Comfort Zones
Resolving issues and achieving greatness lies outside the comfort zone.

Chapter VIII
Fear Is Normal
Fear for self-protection is often an illusion not based in reality


Chapter IX
Calm Your Fears
Operating from fear gives only one option – a negative one.


Chapter X
Telling the Truth
Living in truth develops authenticity.

Chapter XI
Truth Connects
Without truth in a relationship, you will always be isolated.

Chapter XII
Trust with Time
Time will allow you to determine if someone is really trustworthy.

Chapter XIII
Agent or Victim
Victims are stuck in fear. Agents move past fear to manifest opportunities.

Chapter XIV
Four Types of Forgiveness
Forgiving others; asking for forgiveness from others; forgiving ourselves; asking for God’s forgiveness

Chapter XV
The Sad Victim
People who have been hurt can become entrenched in this mind set.

Chapter XVI
Giving and Receiving
Through giving we receive the gift of peace of mind.

Chapter XVII
Self Development
We can advance ourselves by practicing forgiveness.

Chapter XVIII
A Courteous Heart
Forgiving quickly and accepting life on life’s terms means a life well lived.