Rationality and the Pursuit of Happiness
Wiley-Blackwell (Verlag)
978-0-470-68312-5 (ISBN)
RATIONALITY AND THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS “This book is a labor of love! Michael Bernard has painstakingly transcribed a number of Albert Ellis’s therapy and demonstration sessions as well as a selection of his lectures and has used this material to excellent effect to make Dr Ellis’s views on psychological health and happiness come alive. A gem of a book on a gem of a man by a gem of an author.”
Professor Windy Dryden, Goldsmiths, University of London, UK
“Michael Bernard’s book reveals the importance of ‘rationality’ as a positive faculty of mind that enables people to strengthen their resilience and self-efficacy in order to not only cope with the inevitable challenges, demands and changes characteristic of our post-modern age but, in addition, through the application of different principles of rational living identified by legendary psychologist Albert Ellis, to live fulfilled and meaningful professional and personal lives. I confidently commend this book.”
Professor Field Rickards, Dean, Graduate School of Education, University of Melbourne, Australia
Albert Ellis, one of the world’s most influential psychologists, founded Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) in the 1950s. Over the years, this pioneering form of cognitive behavior therapy has advanced the emotional well-being of hundreds of thousands of people around the world. Yet while Ellis’s innovative approaches for helping people with emotional difficulties are well known, his views on the pursuit of personal happiness – which have also influenced generations of people both with and without such problems – are far more elusive. Ellis’s powerful arguments in favor of the rational pursuit of happiness are set out for the very first time in this book.
Rationality and the Pursuit of Happiness presents Ellis’s views on how the principles of rational living can be used by anyone to achieve lifelong happiness. Transcripts of private counseling sessions and public forums reveal the great power of rationality and the self-defeating nature of irrationality. Drawing on 50 years of Ellis’s writing, Michael Bernard shows how the emotional misery that arises from irrational thinking of the human psyche can obstruct our innate potential for self-actualization and happiness. In doing so, he firmly establishes Ellis as a pioneer of positive psychology and a human being whose superior intellect and years of public education and psychotherapy experience offer genuine insights into the eternal question of what makes for a happy life.
Michael E. Bernard is a Professor at the Melbourne Graduate School of Education, University of Melbourne, Australia. He co-founded the Australian Institute for Rational Emotive Therapy, is a former Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy, and has written more than 50 books and journal articles in areas associated with mental health, resilience, peak performance, parenting, and school improvement. He currently consults with business and the public sector on principles of personal effectiveness, and is Managing Director of The Bernard Group. Michael worked closely with Albert Ellis for more than three decades. Today, he is recognized as an international authority on Ellis' work and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.
About the Author xiii
Preface xv
1 Albert Ellis and the Pursuit of Happiness 1
The Early Life and Times of Albert Ellis 3
Albert Ellis’ (Generally) Pleasurable and Happy Personal Life 4
Albert Ellis’ Professional Life was Self-actualized 6
Ellis Speaks Common Sense 8
The Dual Nature of the Human Psyche 9
Nature–Nurture 10
The Purpose and Goals of Life 11
Happiness 12
Self-actualization 14
Ellis Abandons Self-esteem 16
Finding Happiness: No Apologies Needed 17
2 Why We Get Unhappy 19
What is Unhappiness? 19
Thinking Makes It So 21
Irrational Thinking 22
Irrational Beliefs that Create Unhappiness 25
The Strength of Irrational Convictions 30
People Upset Themselves About Being Upset 35
3 Refusing to Become Desperately Unhappy 41
The Development of REBT 41
The ABCs of REBT 44
Disputing Methods and New Rational Effects 52
The Elegant Solution 63
Fun and Humor 64
4 The Philosophy of Happiness: Principles of Rational Living 67
Rational Principle 1: Self-interest 68
Rational Principle 2: Social Interest 70
Rational Principle 3: Self-direction 70
Rational Principle 4: Self-acceptance 71
Rational Principle 5: Tolerance of Others 73
Rational Principle 6: Short-term and Long-term Hedonism 74
Rational Principle 7: Commitment to Creative, Absorbing Activities and Pursuits 75
Rational Principle 8: Responsible Risk-taking and Experimenting 78
Rational Principle 9: High Frustration Tolerance and Willpower 79
Rational Principle 10: Problem Solving 81
Rational Principle 11: Scientific Thinking and Flexibility 83
The Rational Mindset of a Happy and Fulfilled Person 84
5 Love 87
Love Slobbism 88
Romantic Love 92
Jealousy and Possessiveness 98
Keeping Love Alive 103
6 Relationships 105
Encountering Suitable Partners 105
Mating 111
Separating 121
7 Sex 127
The Right to Sexual Enjoyment 129
Ellis on Sexual Morality 130
A Rational Approach to Sex Problems 141
8 Women 155
Depression 157
Weight 162
Dating and Mating 162
Work 166
Programs for Women 172
9 Homosexuality 173
Irrationality and Homosexuality 173
REBT Counseling 176
Aids 183
10 Work 187
Emotional Problems about Practical Problems at Work 188
Enhancing Decisiveness 191
Poor Self-Esteem in the Workplace 196
Perfectionism 201
Procrastination 209
11 Children and Parents 217
Parenting Styles and Discipline 218
Overcoming the Emotional Stresses of Parenting 220
How Parents Can Help Solve Problems of Their Children 226
Relating to Your Parents 229
12 Death and Dying 241
A Humanistic Conception of Death 242
Rational Living with Dying 243
13 Rational Living in an Irrational World 251
14 Albert Ellis Interviewed by Michael E. Bernard 263
On a Philosophy of Life as Therapy 264
On Religion 265
On Spirituality 266
On Politics 268
On the Mental Health of People in the Twenty-first Century 269
On the Future of the Human Race 270
On the Future of REBT 270
On Rational Beliefs and the Degree of Self-acceptance 271
On the Need to Strengthen Rational Beliefs 272
On Self-downing 276
On Self-Actualizing 276
On Homosexuality 277
On Marriage 279
On Sex 280
On the Use of REBT in Diverse Cultures 281
On the Use of REBT with Men and Women 281
On Dispelling Myths about REBT 283
On the Professional Acceptance of REBT 284
On His Work Ethic 285
On His Morning Mindset 287
On Dealing with Physical Ailments 287
On Satisfying Moments Over the Years 287
On His Recent Pleasurable Moments 288
On His Regrets 289
If He Had to Do It All Over Again? 289
A Rational Approach to Happiness 291
Article by Michael E. Bernard
References and Acknowledgment of Copyright 299
Index 301
Erscheint lt. Verlag | 18.1.2011 |
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Verlagsort | Hoboken |
Sprache | englisch |
Maße | 159 x 229 mm |
Gewicht | 601 g |
Themenwelt | Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie |
ISBN-10 | 0-470-68312-0 / 0470683120 |
ISBN-13 | 978-0-470-68312-5 / 9780470683125 |
Zustand | Neuware |
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