Fix Me (eBook)

Belynder Walia, a dedicated psychotherapist, author, and speaker, is on a mission to foster inner harmony through the power of self-relationship and emotional empowerment. Her profound insights and guidance sparks transformative growth, ultimately promoting resilience and well-being. In Fix Me, she shares her expertise and experience to inspire you to manage anxiety and take control of your life.

Preface xiii

Acknowledgements xv

About The Author xvii

Introduction xix

Is Fix Me the Right Book for You? xxi

Assessing Your Mental Health Needs xxi

Learning Style Preferences xxii

Coping Mechanisms and Support Systems xxii

Setting Goals for Mental Health xxiii

Breaking Negative Patterns xxiii

Quick Fixes for Managing Anxiety xxv

Grounding Techniques xxv

Controlled Breathing xxvi

Mindfulness Meditation xxvi

Progressive Muscle Relaxation xxvii

Positive Self-Talk xxvii

Aromatherapy xxvii

Distract Yourself xxviii

1 Anxiety Triggers 1

Understanding Your Motivations 2

Cultivating Self-Awareness 3

References 6

2 The Feeling of Anxiety 7

Loss of Control 9

Trauma and Anxiety 11

The Roots of Anxiety 12

References 20

3 Physical Symptoms of Anxiety 21

The Issue of Chronic Pain 22

Managing Anxiety Due to Pain 26

References 34

4 Three Brains Equilibrium (3BE) 35

The Power of Visualisation 39

3BE Methods 42

Having an Open Mind 42

Practising Empathy 43

Trusting Your Intuition 44

References 47

5 Anxiety and Grief 49

Generational Patterns 52

How to Settle Your Grief 54

Reference 57

6 Pet and Pet Owners' Anxiety 59

Separation Anxiety 60

Grief-Related Anxiety: Loss of a Pet 63

Reference 68

7 Fear and the Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Responses 69

Understanding Resilience 70

Managing Fear: The Underlying Root 72

Developing Resilience 75

Practising Control Over Fear 77

References 80

8 Self-Sabotaging Behaviour 81

Unveiling Self-Sabotaging Behaviour 82

The Journey of Self-Reflection 83

The Value of Introspection and Finding Purpose 86

9 Jealousy and Anxiety 93

Playing the Comparison Game 97

Critical Self-Perception 100

10 Self-Relationship Anxiety 105

Know Who You Are 108

Celebrate Who You Are 111

References 115

11 Managing Social Anxiety 117

Fear of Social Situations 119

Confinement and Escape 121

Knowing When You Need Help 123

12 Bullying and Its Effects on Anxiety 129

What Is Bullying? 130

The Impact of Bullying 138

Reference 141

13 Fear of Happiness 143

Having an Attitude of Gratitude 145

Aiming for Progress Not Perfection 148

14 Calming Anxiety Through Mindfulness 153

15 Calming Anxiety Naturally 161

Afterword: Embrace the Power Within 169

Index 173