Coach. Heal. Motivate. (eBook)

1 – Go for What You Want!

Allow me to introduce myself, I am Herbert Decker Jr. III, also known as HD3. Today, I stand before you with a fire in my heart and a burning desire to see you unleash your limitless potential. Are you ready to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and purpose? I know you are!

Close your eyes and let me take you back in time to the days of my youth, where my dreams stretched as vast as the universe itself. Whenever the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” arose, my mind would ignite with an endless number of possibilities. In the depths of my being, I held a strong belief that I had the power to achieve anything I set my mind to.

I responded by saying, “I want to be a lawyer.” Yet, a family member, driven by their own fears and limitations, cautioned me to reconsider. I was advised to reconsider because the path to becoming a lawyer requires extensive years of schooling—as though it was a bad thing to further my quest. Little did I know, back then, that their words were meant to plant seeds of doubt in my impressionable mind. But I refused to let their limited perspectives define my path. I shook off their skepticism, determined to press forward with unwavering resolve.

As time continued to go on, the question resurfaced once more: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” This time, my heart sang a different tune, resonating with becoming a songwriter. But the naysayers emerged from the shadows, their voices echoing with cautionary tales of struggling musicians and unfulfilled dreams. They urged me to be “realistic” and not follow that path and to settle for mediocrity. But their words fell on deaf ears, for I knew deep within my soul that settling was not an option.

Eventually, graduation day loomed on the horizon and with it came a sense of confusion and uncertainty. The repeated questioning had left me in suspense, making me question my own identity and purpose. Doubt had etched its mark deep within my subconscious, and I found myself lost in a world of confusion.

But here’s the thing. Within every challenge lies an opportunity for growth. It’s time to rewrite this story, to infuse it with unyielding determination and faith in myself.

So, I refused to let their doubts define me. Deep within my soul, I knew that I possessed a unique gift, a purpose that was waiting to be unearthed. I had a burning question that kept me awake at night: “If money didn’t exist, if societal expectations and limitations were stripped away, what would be my true passion?” It was in that moment of introspection that I realized true fulfillment lies in pursuing our passions, regardless of external validation or financial rewards. I couldn’t allow the limitations of others to box me in.

“If money didn’t exist, if societal expectations
and limitations were stripped away, what would be my true passion?”

I can tell you that fear is a powerful force that seeks to hold us back from reaching our fullest potential. The fear of being trapped in the same spot for the next twenty to thirty years can be paralyzing. It can stifle our dreams and suffocate our desires. But I want you to understand this: you have a choice. You can choose to spend two to five years working diligently on your own goals, your own dreams, or you can resign yourself to twenty to thirty years, toiling away for someone else’s vision. The choice is yours! The choice is mine. And I chose to bet on myself, to take the leap of faith, and go after what set my soul on fire.

Now, let’s talk about the power of perspective. People will always try to discourage you based on their own experiences. They may tell you it’s impossible, that you should settle for the ordinary, that dreams are reserved for the select few. But here’s the truth, backed by scientific fact: psychologists have proven that during the first seven years of our lives, our brains are mapping out our pathways. Our dreams are etched into our very being, waiting to be unleashed. The dreams you held as a child, the visions that consumed your thoughts, they are not random fantasies. They are the seeds of success, waiting to be nourished and cultivated.

Now, let’s dive into the undeniable benefits of pursuing your passions. When you follow your dreams, when you align your actions with your true purpose, you become fulfilled, motivated, and self-disciplined. There is a deep sense of satisfaction that arises from living a life of authenticity. You tap into a reservoir of energy and purpose that propels you forward, even in the face of adversity. And guess what? Financial abundance becomes a natural byproduct of pursuing your passions. When you love what you do, when you pour your heart and soul into your work, success follows. You have the power within you to build your own empire, not just in terms of material wealth, but in terms of leaving a lasting impact on the world. It’s about living in your higher purpose, contributing to the greater good, and creating a legacy that will outlive you.

“It’s about living in your higher purpose, contributing to the greater good, and creating a legacy that will outlive you.”

But wait, there’s a flip side to this story. If you neglect your dreams, if you let fear hold you back, you’ll become unhappy, resentful, and uninspired. You’ll live a life suffocated by a sense of lack, always wondering “what if.” Deep within, you’ll know that there’s another purpose, another path that you’re meant to walk. But fear will keep you stagnant, and you’ll be afraid to take the necessary steps to make it happen. It’s a life filled with regrets, a life that echoes with the unfulfilled promises of what could have been.

So, here’s the bottom line: you must follow your dreams. Don’t seek others’ approval, for their opinions don’t define you. Your dreams are uniquely yours, and only you have the power to bring them to life. The journey may be filled with challenges, with obstacles that will put you to the test, but remember this: fulfillment comes from going after what you want with strong determination.

“Give yourself permission to dream big and explore your passions without limitations.”

Imagine waking up each morning with a sense of purpose and excitement, knowing that you are living a life aligned with your deepest desires. Visualize yourself pursuing your passions and being fully engaged and energized by the work you do. Envision the joy and fulfillment that comes from sharing your unique talents with the world. This is the life that awaits you as you embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and purpose.

Now, let’s explore the tools for success that will guide you along this transformative journey. So, grab a pen and paper, we’re about to create a roadmap to success.

Step 1: Write Down Your Passions

Take a moment to unleash the power within you by writing down the things you enjoy and are good at. Reflect on your talents, skills, and passions. Let your imagination run wild as you uncover your gifts that have been wrapped. This exercise will help you recognize your unique gifts and strengths.

Step 2: Ignite the Fire of Passion

From the list you’ve created, identify the one thing that sets your soul on fire. Choose the passion that burns deep within you, the one that gives you an unstoppable drive and unwavering determination.

Step 3: The Path to Success

Now it’s time to dive into the requirements needed to achieve your goal. Conduct thorough research, seek guidance from experts, and uncover the knowledge, skills, and experiences necessary to turn your passion into a reality.

Step 4: Create Your Roadmap

With a clear understanding of what it takes, create a powerful action plan that outlines your journey. Break your goals into smaller, achievable steps. Be specific, set deadlines, and identify the resources and support you’ll need along the way.

Step 5: Visualize It in Your Mind

Visualize yourself already living your dream. Close your eyes and see yourself achieving your goal, feeling the exhilaration and satisfaction. Let this visualization fuel your motivation and instill belief in your ability to make it happen.

Step 6: Embrace the Power of Action

It is time to take action! Execute your action plan with determination and perseverance. Embrace the challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth. Remember, it’s in the doing that greatness is born.

Step 7: Overcome Obstacles

Inevitably, you’ll face obstacles and roadblocks along your journey. Embrace them as opportunities to learn and grow. Develop resilience, adaptability, and a problem-solving mindset. Refuse to let setbacks deter you from your destination.

Step 8: Seek Knowledge and Growth

Continuously seek knowledge, expand your skills, and invest in personal development. Continue to grow, whether through books, courses, mentors, or networking. Commit to lifelong learning to stay ahead of the game.

Step 9: Networking and Support Groups

Surround yourself with a tribe of like-minded individuals who uplift and support your dreams. Seek out mentors, coaches, and friends who believe in your potential and can provide guidance and encouragement when you need it most.

Step 10: Celebrate Your Milestones

As you make progress and achieve milestones, take time to celebrate your victories, no matter how small. Reflect on your journey, the lessons you’ve learned, and the growth you’ve...