Stop Reacting and Start Responding (eBook)

Chapter 1: Behavior
1. Battle of Wills
2. Lying
3. New Attitude ~ It's Not Just a Song
4. One More Chance ~ What a Child Hears
5. Repetition ~ Frustration for Two
6. Either/Or ~ Reminder-Choice
7. Shyness
8. Stopping Mean Words
9. Waking Up
10. Yelling ~ Acting on a Misconception
Chapter 2: Choices
11. Choices ~ Threats Not Included
12. "Do It Now!" ~ Demand or Empower?
13. Choosing Not to Choose
14. Endless Negotiations
15. Lightening the Mood
Chapter 3: Feelings
16. Apologies
17. Attention ~ Yelling Can Be Yummy
18. Birthdays ~ Teaching Gratefulness
19. Bossiness ~ Important for the Future
20. Bossy & The Screamer ~ Aha for Two
21. Discipline Consciously ~ S.T.R.R.
22. Control ~ A Yoga Ball Lesson
23. Hospitals ~ Truth, Trust, Courage
24. I'm Mad
25. Insincere Apologies
26. Deep Breathing
27. Tantrums
28. "It's Too Hard!"
29. Tone of Voice
30. What's Wrong?
31. Whining
Chapter 4: Frustration
32. A Playroom
33. Band-Aid Pha
34. "Yuck" ~ Conquering Food Avoidance
35. "Don't Get Out of Bed Again!"
36. End of the Day
37. "How Was School?"
38.Hush~Can't You See I'm Talking
39. Inside Voice
40. Modeling ~ This Isn't "Project Runway"
41. Practicing Reading ~ Easy and Fun?
42. Relaxing ~ Try Giving to Get Some
43. Talking Too Loud
44. Thank You Notes
45. Time for Bed
46. Tired of Reminding
47. Walking Rules
48. "Why'd You Do That?"
Chapter 5: Grandparents
49. Contact by Phone ~ Meeting the Face
50. Things To Do ~ Family Bonding
51. Watching the Kids ~ Use My Rules
Chapter 6: Learning
52. Mistakes
53. Mistakes ~ Tender Teaching
54. "Need to Go Potty?" ~ What He Hears
Chapter 7: Out in Public
55. Begging for Stuff
56. Communicating
57. Correcting
58. "Everyone's Staring!"
59. Cooperation ~ At a Restaurant?
Chapter 8: Power Struggles
60. "Do Not Argue!" ~ Who Goes First?
61."Freeze!" ~ It's Not Just a Game
62. Questioning ~ Stopping a Power Struggle
Chapter 9: Reacting
63. Calm to Furious
64. Don't. You. Dare. Say. That.
65. "Hurry Up!"
66. Saying "Stop It!"
67. Taking Responsibility
68. Think Before You Act
69. Warnings ~ Two Children, Two Types
70. When Annoyed ~ That's Your Moment
Chapter 10: Real Life
71. A Parent's True Job
72. Difficult Days
73. Chores
74. Family Dinners
75. Punishment or Discipline
76. Reconnecting
77. Retrain ~ Athletes Can, So Can You
78. Sex ~ And the Big Question
79. Snacks ~ Can Be Real Meals, Too!
80. The Family Story
81. What a Mess!
Chapter 11: Rules
82. Rules
83. School Rules
84. Bribe or Reward
85. "But, I forgot"
86. Junk Food or Healthy
Chapter 12: Self-Esteem
87. I'm Proud of You
88. Compliment or Notice
89. Self Assessment ~ Better Than Praise
90. Two Types of Praise
91. "It's Too Hard!"
Chapter 13: Separation Anxiety
92. Crying: Part 1 ~ The School
93. Crying: Part 2 ~ The Method
94. Crying: Part 3 ~ The Sadness
95. Crying: Part 4 ~ The Sitter


Chapter 14: Siblings
96. Siblings
97. Fighting Siblings
98. Rivalry & Siblings
99. Sharing ~ Older Children
100. Sharing ~ Young Children
101. Compromise ~ Crucial for Relationships
102. Two Children ~ One Easy, One Difficult
Chapter 15: Travel
103. Technology ~ All I Get Is Bad News
104. Maps ~ Where in the World Is Mom?
105. Planes ~ I'm Breaking My Own Rule
106. Re-Entry ~ A Game of Clue
107. Staying Connected ~ I Miss You
108. The End ~ Courage and Intuition
About the Author ..................................................................221 Index........................................................................................225
Specific Techniques ..............................................................228