Invisible Orientation (eBook)

Lambda Literary Award 2014 Finalist in LGBT NonfictionForeword Reviews INDIEFAB Book of the Year Award 2014 Finalist in Family & RelationshipsIndependent Publisher Book Awards 2015 (IPPY) Silver Medal in Sexuality/RelationshipsNext Generation Indie Book Awards 2015 Winner in LGBT--What if you weren't sexually attracted to anyone?A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They arent sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation—like gay, straight, or bisexual.Asexuality is the invisible orientation. Most people believe that “everyone” wants sex, that “everyone” understands what it means to be attracted to other people, and that “everyone” wants to date and mate. But thats where asexual people are left out—they dont find other people sexually attractive, and if and when they say so, they are very rarely treated as though thats okay.When an asexual person comes out, alarming reactions regularly follow; loved ones fear that an asexual person is sick, or psychologically warped, or suffering from abuse. Critics confront asexual people with accusations of following a fad, hiding homosexuality, or making excuses for romantic failures. And all of this contributes to a discouraging master narrative: there is no such thing as “asexual.” Being an asexual person is a lie or an illness, and it needs to be fixed.In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual peoples experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.