Intimate Treason (eBook)

Introduction

Chapter I: Claiming Your Reality
1. Telling your Story
2. My Suspicions Realized
3. The Word
4. The Ripple Effect
5. Managing Triggers
6. Bottom Line: Non Negotiable Boundaries
7. Deciding Whom To Tell
8. Seeking Help Through Connections

Chapter II: Turning inward
1. Vision for Self
2. Living in Limbo
3. Defining Trauma Responses
4. Grief with Partners
5. My Losses
6. Letters to My Self
7. Feelings
8. Emotions The Body
9. Personal Strengths

Chapter III: My Part of the Dance

A. Emotional Problems
1. Emotional Regulation
2. Stepping out of Reaction Into Action
3. Unraveling the Myths of Control
4. My Relationship to Anger
5. The Myth of Perfectionism

B. Perception Problems
1. Coping or Defending: The Paradox of Denying Reality
2. Remove the Veil
3. Protecting the Illusion
4. Cloudy to Clear: Transforming Distorted Thinking
5. Magical Thinking: Challenging the Fantasy
6. Stepping Out of The Victim
7. Tolerating the Unacceptable

C. Behavioral Problems
1. My Risky Behaviors
2. Relationship & Love Addiction
3. Co-Morbidity

Chapter IV: Recognizing Childhood Influences
1. Family of Origin Influences
2. Abandonment Repeated
3. Trauma Repetition
4. Family Tree
5. Family of Origin Feelings
6. Family of Origin Needs
7. Trust: Trusting Own Perception
8. Family of Origin Boundaries
9. Willingness to Explore More

Chapter V: Taking Charge of Your Own Life
1. Disclosure
2. Boundaries
3. Decision to Stay or Leave
4. Communication
5. Arrested Grief
6. Integrating Sexuality Back into the Relationship: Healthy Sexuality
7. Children
8. Healthy Intimacy Begins to be Explored

Chapter VI: Moving Forward
1. Forgiveness pieces
2. Spirituality
3. Recovery plans
4. Living Day-to-Day: Goals for Myself: Self-care Daily Sheet