Nonmonogamy and Death

Kayden Abley is an Ottawa-based queer, nonbinary and transgender healthcare admin worker and author who has been published in Amanda Goes To Italy (Girls Gone By Press) and Under The Poet Tree (Pedlar Press) and Mosaic literary magazine. They hold a diploma in Fine Arts from Dawson College, a BA (Hons) from the University of Toronto and a Master's degree from the University of Edinburgh. They also completed the academic portion of Humber College's Funeral Services Education program, where they studied grief counselling, funeral law and funeral planning among other topics.

Introduction


Part 1: Planning for Death in the Context of Nonmonogamy


What’s Different for Nonmonogamous People


When It Comes to Planning for Death


Advance Care Planning


Dying without a Will


Making a Will and Planning Your Estate


Children and Other Dependents


Assets and Debts (Including Property)


Burial or Cremation Plans


Part 2: Coping with Death in Nonmonogamy


Conversations to Have after a Death Has Occurred


Issues for Emotionally Close, Domestic or Nesting Partners


Issues for Partners Who Aren’t Involved in the Everyday Aspects of the Deceased’s Life

Discrimination within Funeral Services


Grieving Relationships That Do Not Exist for the Mainstream World


Grief and Its Many Forms


Conclusion


Notes


Glossary


Bibliography